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Parenting / work balance / does it get harder ?

Mum on a mission :)

hello,

i wonder if any parents have changed role or taken a job that is easier / less stressful / less hours in order to support their child more? 

I am currently looking for a new role as need more stability financially and I would like to feel more fulfilled in my job.  However, I don’t know if I can face the extra responsibility and workload.  

More often than not before I take my lovely daughter to school I have been emotionally floored by a meltdown (I know she feels 100 times worse).   I feel I need all my energy to support her and manage the effect on her siblings. 

The more I read and research it feels easier to cope but some mornings I feel emotionally exhausted and don’t think I could cope with a more responsible role.  

Also I wonder as she gets older will it all just become more difficult, as she has exam stress etc will she need more support. 

Juat interested if other parents are in a similar situation x 

Parents

  • Hi, 

    I have ASD myself and have 3 daughters, the youngest of which also has ASD. I do agency work, so I don't work that often, so I can still keep my hand in with work but can focus the majority of my time on looking after my children. If litlun wasn't ASD I might be inclined to put her into nursery a couple of extra days a week but I feel that would be unfair on her as she would struggle more than most with the separation from mum, she's a total mummy's girl! Once she's at school I'll be able to work a bit more. Do you have anyone else to help you with looking after your daughter?

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  • Hi, 

    I have ASD myself and have 3 daughters, the youngest of which also has ASD. I do agency work, so I don't work that often, so I can still keep my hand in with work but can focus the majority of my time on looking after my children. If litlun wasn't ASD I might be inclined to put her into nursery a couple of extra days a week but I feel that would be unfair on her as she would struggle more than most with the separation from mum, she's a total mummy's girl! Once she's at school I'll be able to work a bit more. Do you have anyone else to help you with looking after your daughter?

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  • in reply to Kitsune

    Have you looked into the possibility of a childminder? Home from home setting, more chance of a one to one with your daughter, plus somebody who can give you BOTH a good settling in period to ease with the transition & aid in getting little one school ready so it’s not such a big leap when the time comes? Childminders can offer the 15-30 funded hours aswell as accept the tax free voucher schemes through work. They’re Ofsted registered & work to the EYFS- which is the same curriculum they work to in schools & nurseries for the 0-5 age group.

    If you get tax credits, you could be entitled to quite a substantial portion of your childcare paid for, dependent upon your situation.

  • in reply to Kitsune

    Hello ... well I do have a husband and he helps, i’m telling him all the things I learn or find out in my books or on this website and we are cobbling it together and getting by.  Thanks for your kind message, the kindness of everyone on here is overwhelming actually. Thanks again x