Some advice please

Hi everyone. Hope everyone is well. Our daughter is 10, she has autism and sensory processing disorder. We started home schooling her in January of this year after her being in main stream school for 5 and bit years but her anxiety was just getting worse so we made the home schooling decision. Now 98% of her behaviour is so much better, she's less stressed and like a different child. One problem has arose that is causing upset at least once a week, this is her not knowing what to do with her spare time. She collects teddies, has making sets, Lego, her iPad, has minecraft figures and games to play but she just has no interest in them. Her iPad is the only thing she has concentration on for a long period but even gets bored. She constantly says I need a hobby cause it's what people do in their spare time but she then says she starts something gets bored n then stressed. I've told her that it's ok to just play on her iPad or watch tv but she's having none of it. She asked to learn the guitar and have a tutor but then says I will het bored of that. Even having money stresses her cause she doesn't know what to spend it on, we are fine with her buying what ever even if it sits un-touched but she gets stressed that she's letting us down. She also keeps saying her thinking winds her up but she can't explain what she's thinking. I've tried visuals but it's no good. Thank you in advance for any help xxx

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  • Your daughter sounds fortunate because you have money.

    I would suggest a low tech solution.  Such learning to swim, (maybe horse riding) being taken on holidays.  And an attempt to mixing with other people, preferably children of a similar age.

  • They are good suggestion but she won't interact with her other children and moves away if children get too close. We don't have spare money for too much but we could use her pocket money for something longer term. Thank you 

  • I hope she can find some common interest with other children, or indeed with adults. Do you have a home education group near you? It's a good way for parents to support each other, and can have produce some interesting activities. (Disclaimer: I am not a parent.)

    Boredom was a problem for me as a child. The way out of too much thinking is experience. Books were a good refuge, but I wish I had had music lessons. Have you mentioned that if she learns guitar, she will never run out of songs to play and even can write her own?

  • Thank u, these are all brilliant suggestions. I will have a chat with her and see what takes her fancy. I think you are right once something is done she wonders why she has done it as it will only just sit there. I think I just really need to do stuff and encourage her to join in. Thank u again so much

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