Some advice please

Your daughter sounds fortunate because you have money.

I would suggest a low tech solution.  Such learning to swim, (maybe horse riding) being taken on holidays.  And an attempt to mixing with other people, preferably children of a similar age.

They are good suggestion but she won't interact with her other children and moves away if children get too close. We don't have spare money for too much but we could use her pocket money for something longer term. Thank you 

I hope she can find some common interest with other children, or indeed with adults. Do you have a home education group near you? It's a good way for parents to support each other, and can have produce some interesting activities. (Disclaimer: I am not a parent.)

Boredom was a problem for me as a child. The way out of too much thinking is experience. Books were a good refuge, but I wish I had had music lessons. Have you mentioned that if she learns guitar, she will never run out of songs to play and even can write her own?

Thank u, these are all brilliant suggestions. I will have a chat with her and see what takes her fancy. I think you are right once something is done she wonders why she has done it as it will only just sit there. I think I just really need to do stuff and encourage her to join in. Thank u again so much

She sounds quite bright to me. Perhaps it is the case that once she has figured out how something works / is done, she then loses interest as there no longer seems to be a point?

What does she enjoy?

How about (there are already some great suggestions from the others, so I'll try not to repeat those):

1. country walks ( lots of scope for gaining a special interest, identifying plants, trees, fungi, insects, plus gentle exercise in a natural environment, shown to be beneficial to mental health)

2. Volunteering or attending a training workshop (age appropriate) with your local Wildlife Trust

3. Painting or photography - perhaps macro photography if she has an eye for detail. Creating images might allow her to express what she is thinking and feeling, and the way she sees the world.

4. Cooking, including kitchen knife skills, as an important life skill which everyone should learn in order to prepare them for an independent life, with a healthy diet -wholegrain foods even out blood sugar, which again helps with mood/mental health. 

5. Learning a language, perhaps something outside the mainstream usual choices, maybe a non-roman character set. 

6. Since she spends hours on her iPad, maybe get her interested in software development? It's a common career choice for people on the spectrum. It needn't cost more than a modest PC, since the best software development tools are pretty much all free (or steadily becoming so) these days. Try python.org and see how she gets on. 

She sounds quite bright to me. Perhaps it is the case that once she has figured out how something works / is done, she then loses interest as there no longer seems to be a point?

What does she enjoy?

How about (there are already some great suggestions from the others, so I'll try not to repeat those):

1. country walks ( lots of scope for gaining a special interest, identifying plants, trees, fungi, insects, plus gentle exercise in a natural environment, shown to be beneficial to mental health)

2. Volunteering or attending a training workshop (age appropriate) with your local Wildlife Trust

3. Painting or photography - perhaps macro photography if she has an eye for detail. Creating images might allow her to express what she is thinking and feeling, and the way she sees the world.

4. Cooking, including kitchen knife skills, as an important life skill which everyone should learn in order to prepare them for an independent life, with a healthy diet -wholegrain foods even out blood sugar, which again helps with mood/mental health. 

5. Learning a language, perhaps something outside the mainstream usual choices, maybe a non-roman character set. 

6. Since she spends hours on her iPad, maybe get her interested in software development? It's a common career choice for people on the spectrum. It needn't cost more than a modest PC, since the best software development tools are pretty much all free (or steadily becoming so) these days. Try python.org and see how she gets on. 

Thank u, these are all brilliant suggestions. I will have a chat with her and see what takes her fancy. I think you are right once something is done she wonders why she has done it as it will only just sit there. I think I just really need to do stuff and encourage her to join in. Thank u again so much