Hi OK am 25 with autism I absolutely obssesed with Disney fairytales k so I was a member of Panto group I got very upset to find that the shows were very different from my beloved version so I got a role anyway I copied genie in Aladdin in Disney when asked to do it different I refused I actually kept the part for another week k but when asked to change it again I became very mad I actually ended up ripping up my hired costume and was asked to leave I got into big trouble with this company none of the members talk to me if they see me out and I am bard from even going to see there snow white I am worried is my autism affecting the way I behaving or did they just over exagtuate they were informed of my condition I do miss 2 friends I made there who I can't seem to be able to get in contact with which is a shame
Thanks I have actually today inquired about joining a group of drama aimed at autistic and disabled adults in my area Liverpool I have taken into account your reply and its been a good help after I discussed this with my mum and step dad
thanks
dave
I suffered when younger in the work place from those people who say there's a correct way of doing things and you have to do it that way. I've often found I have to develop my own way to overcome difficulties I encounter, so I find myself disadvantaged by following "procedure"
Its the change thing I guess in part. But also if you have a way of doing things that suits your abilities, being told to do it differently can undermine you. It is a pity if they knew you had an ASD they did not consider this when undertaking changes. So perhaps as friends they are no great loss, and maybe there's another drama group you can belong to. True artists they say are difficult to work with.
Unfortunately a response to threat is to over focus on it, with such a set frame of mind that you set out on a course of self destruction. NTs are better equipped to adjust and adapt to what others expect. You may have to remind yourself of previous experiences like this and try to develop some stop phrases that come to mind when you are getting over-focussed and anxious.
The NTs around you were not used to seeing such a reaction, which took no account of their feelings, but where they expected you to adjust when you have an inbuilt difficulty doing so. Knowing you have ASD doesn't prepare NTs as to how to respond.
Keep a notebook. Write down negative experiences, and when you have some quiet time later think them over or discuss them with someone you can trust. With the notebook as a reminder it may make it easier to stop getting over focussed and find a calmer solution.
