Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all :)
You may have seen a topic i prerviously posted very recently about my boys. Im a mom of 3. I have got my one boy through alot of the process to the point they have said its Autism and ADHD but it hasnt been put on paper as yet as hes yet to see a phsycotherapist and my other son hasnt even got to first screening yet. This in mind, I have so many questions, so please forgive me as no matter what i read it seems so vague. My main question being if this is the case, does my nearly 6 year old son know? is he aware of his autism and ADHD? If not when do they become aware of it? do you tell them or do you not say anything at all ( i wouldnt until it was on paper anyway). Also my one son has alot of hitting, bitting to others and himself, he uses baby talk and grunts, these things sometimes make me wonder is all this behaviour completely his condition OR is some of it just an average nearly 6 year olds behaviour? Im very confused. I know alot of the things he does isnt that of someone his age but say like when hes boundary pushing is that the nearly six year old or is it part of the condition or both? the reason i ask this as im so worried about time out if its something that cant be helped, in fact should i be time outing anyway? Im in a place where im questioning everything he does (not to him like i just think is this his way of saying i cant cope or is it him just being a head strong nearly 6 year old?) , im questioning everything we do like should i time out if his behaviour is unacceptable (but then it might not be his fault and so i dont want him to feel misunderstood). I often wonder if he knows as im scared that he might feel alone or isolated and i really dont want that. I mean he seems happy enough until hes in one of his outbursts but i am a worrier and the thought of them feeling misunderstood for even a second turns my stomach. If theres anyone out there with autism / ADHD or both a point of view and advice from you would be greatly appreciated as i just want to understand and do the best for my boys. My boys havent changed overnight and i would like to think that i know them every inch of the way however if theres anything i can do to understand the way they see the world then that can only benefit them surely? thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance to anyone that can contribute, it means alot. Best Wishes, Lisa :)
Yeah theyre the ones :) Callum wants the sharks brad wants one but doesnt mind which one. They also (as you suggested) want a lava lamp each :) You should get one if you like them the cat would probably leg it seen as theyre so big :D Oh Callum typically of him want a remote control helicopter that shoots missiles!! Callum takes great happiness in destruction lol! Dont you hurt yourself though?? im not surprised you get headache! Yeah an email sounds good :) if she hunts you down just make an excuse that youre late for a lesson or if she asks you anything just say, didnt you read my email? and if she says yes just say im glad you got it and so thats sorted then and walk off :D I hate that whole kinda personality too! I remember not so long back i was really really cross in the playground after been treated really bad over one of my boys and i know the parent was only trying to help but she came up to me and tryed to hug me and i freaked out real bad and really shouted as i hate been hugged (unless its family) i get all claustrophobic (dunno if that spellings right) and i panic a little! like you its my personal space, and i hate people coming near it. If she does just look at the offending gesture and say, 'im sorry, but do you mind not doing that please, im not a huggy kinda person' :D that should stop any future incidents :D Oww Thor we wanna watch that too it looks wicked! yeah a list sounds good! nah i dont think theyl be offended to be honest if anything surely it makes it easier for them and cheaper as they dont need to get wrapping paper :D AND they dont need to keep reciepts. If theres certain people you think will be offended then go christmas shopping for yourself write what you want and pass it onto them :) But im sure if you just explain what you have just said to me they will really appreciate your honesty and the fact you want to spend their money on something really worthwhile! :)