Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all :)
You may have seen a topic i prerviously posted very recently about my boys. Im a mom of 3. I have got my one boy through alot of the process to the point they have said its Autism and ADHD but it hasnt been put on paper as yet as hes yet to see a phsycotherapist and my other son hasnt even got to first screening yet. This in mind, I have so many questions, so please forgive me as no matter what i read it seems so vague. My main question being if this is the case, does my nearly 6 year old son know? is he aware of his autism and ADHD? If not when do they become aware of it? do you tell them or do you not say anything at all ( i wouldnt until it was on paper anyway). Also my one son has alot of hitting, bitting to others and himself, he uses baby talk and grunts, these things sometimes make me wonder is all this behaviour completely his condition OR is some of it just an average nearly 6 year olds behaviour? Im very confused. I know alot of the things he does isnt that of someone his age but say like when hes boundary pushing is that the nearly six year old or is it part of the condition or both? the reason i ask this as im so worried about time out if its something that cant be helped, in fact should i be time outing anyway? Im in a place where im questioning everything he does (not to him like i just think is this his way of saying i cant cope or is it him just being a head strong nearly 6 year old?) , im questioning everything we do like should i time out if his behaviour is unacceptable (but then it might not be his fault and so i dont want him to feel misunderstood). I often wonder if he knows as im scared that he might feel alone or isolated and i really dont want that. I mean he seems happy enough until hes in one of his outbursts but i am a worrier and the thought of them feeling misunderstood for even a second turns my stomach. If theres anyone out there with autism / ADHD or both a point of view and advice from you would be greatly appreciated as i just want to understand and do the best for my boys. My boys havent changed overnight and i would like to think that i know them every inch of the way however if theres anything i can do to understand the way they see the world then that can only benefit them surely? thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance to anyone that can contribute, it means alot. Best Wishes, Lisa :)
You could be right about the shock o.o
Usually unless its anxiety or anger I take a while to react emotionally to a situation, even with anger it usually kicks in just as I get home. I remember when our old cat Minnie died (she was huge, fat, black and only liked me, I learned how to get up the stairs from her) my mum and sis were in tears whereas I felt sort of numb or empty, then three days later I suddenly burst out crying. It's sort of like my emotions take the scenic route while logic gets straight to the point.
I've never heard of 'fence sitters' before, makes me wonder how they perch on the spikey fences XD But I know that the majority of girls in school are like that, and they're despised by the other 'alpha' females who moan about it every art or textiles lesson. I keep imagining birds with chavvy faces all perching on fences now, then again they do sound a lot like crows squaking all the time. XD
My favourite textures are fur (though I'm doing my best to be ethical, its a right pain in the rear but its worth it), velvet, the soft cotton flannel type fabric used for bedsheets, some fake furs and sometimes silky fabric, although depending on my mood if I touch silk it makes me feel all weird like I'm touching living water. The teachers in the SEN department keep trying to offer me blu tak, don't get me wrong I love playing with it but I always end up getting two fingers stuck together, so I end up spending the whole lesson trying to free myself!