Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all :)
You may have seen a topic i prerviously posted very recently about my boys. Im a mom of 3. I have got my one boy through alot of the process to the point they have said its Autism and ADHD but it hasnt been put on paper as yet as hes yet to see a phsycotherapist and my other son hasnt even got to first screening yet. This in mind, I have so many questions, so please forgive me as no matter what i read it seems so vague. My main question being if this is the case, does my nearly 6 year old son know? is he aware of his autism and ADHD? If not when do they become aware of it? do you tell them or do you not say anything at all ( i wouldnt until it was on paper anyway). Also my one son has alot of hitting, bitting to others and himself, he uses baby talk and grunts, these things sometimes make me wonder is all this behaviour completely his condition OR is some of it just an average nearly 6 year olds behaviour? Im very confused. I know alot of the things he does isnt that of someone his age but say like when hes boundary pushing is that the nearly six year old or is it part of the condition or both? the reason i ask this as im so worried about time out if its something that cant be helped, in fact should i be time outing anyway? Im in a place where im questioning everything he does (not to him like i just think is this his way of saying i cant cope or is it him just being a head strong nearly 6 year old?) , im questioning everything we do like should i time out if his behaviour is unacceptable (but then it might not be his fault and so i dont want him to feel misunderstood). I often wonder if he knows as im scared that he might feel alone or isolated and i really dont want that. I mean he seems happy enough until hes in one of his outbursts but i am a worrier and the thought of them feeling misunderstood for even a second turns my stomach. If theres anyone out there with autism / ADHD or both a point of view and advice from you would be greatly appreciated as i just want to understand and do the best for my boys. My boys havent changed overnight and i would like to think that i know them every inch of the way however if theres anything i can do to understand the way they see the world then that can only benefit them surely? thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance to anyone that can contribute, it means alot. Best Wishes, Lisa :)
Hiya :)
I cant begin to imagine how hard it must be for you figuring out others emotions. Like you said earlier its so easy to take for granted things that doesnt come easy to others. Yeah brad n callum are at CAMHS too :) Ah thank you for the link will take a look at it thats really thoughtful of you :) do you not find anyone on here similar or slightly older than you to talk to? you should post a new topic saying youre trying to find people a little bit older to talk to and can anyone help... its worth a shot :) is there a NAS facebook page? im just thinking if there was you mmight find someone more your age as it is generation FB these days eh?! I know its most likely of no help however i do think i should say that you are doing just fine your a very helpful kind person and a very good sense of humour, and whilst you have fears the person you are will always get you through anything. I think its safe to say that in life in general I have fears all he time its natural and you do overcome them one way or another, and i would imagine that must be even harder to do with an ASD, but you will do it. Youve got through schools and its not been easy but youve coped really really well! I really hope you manage to find someone older than you to talk to. I know of people older with some kind of ASD however not well enough to speak to them openly about it as i always prefer to people to speak to me if they feel comfortable, but if i do break that barrier in months to come then maybe i could ask if they could visit this site :) but they seem very happy and are doing great things with their lives, and you will too! you should try speaking to NAS im very new here as you know but i dont know if maybe they could put you in touch with someone who is a little older to give you insight? Ive never heard of that Pineapple Dance Studio i will have to google it :) google is my best mate :) tells me all the things i dont know even though sometimes its highly exaggerated answers lol! i really hope you find some answer, if i think of anything i will let you know mate :) fingers crossed for you :)
p.s. forgot to say callum had a few rough patches today but on the whole was pretty good :)