Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all :)
You may have seen a topic i prerviously posted very recently about my boys. Im a mom of 3. I have got my one boy through alot of the process to the point they have said its Autism and ADHD but it hasnt been put on paper as yet as hes yet to see a phsycotherapist and my other son hasnt even got to first screening yet. This in mind, I have so many questions, so please forgive me as no matter what i read it seems so vague. My main question being if this is the case, does my nearly 6 year old son know? is he aware of his autism and ADHD? If not when do they become aware of it? do you tell them or do you not say anything at all ( i wouldnt until it was on paper anyway). Also my one son has alot of hitting, bitting to others and himself, he uses baby talk and grunts, these things sometimes make me wonder is all this behaviour completely his condition OR is some of it just an average nearly 6 year olds behaviour? Im very confused. I know alot of the things he does isnt that of someone his age but say like when hes boundary pushing is that the nearly six year old or is it part of the condition or both? the reason i ask this as im so worried about time out if its something that cant be helped, in fact should i be time outing anyway? Im in a place where im questioning everything he does (not to him like i just think is this his way of saying i cant cope or is it him just being a head strong nearly 6 year old?) , im questioning everything we do like should i time out if his behaviour is unacceptable (but then it might not be his fault and so i dont want him to feel misunderstood). I often wonder if he knows as im scared that he might feel alone or isolated and i really dont want that. I mean he seems happy enough until hes in one of his outbursts but i am a worrier and the thought of them feeling misunderstood for even a second turns my stomach. If theres anyone out there with autism / ADHD or both a point of view and advice from you would be greatly appreciated as i just want to understand and do the best for my boys. My boys havent changed overnight and i would like to think that i know them every inch of the way however if theres anything i can do to understand the way they see the world then that can only benefit them surely? thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance to anyone that can contribute, it means alot. Best Wishes, Lisa :)
Hiya :) he he brad sometimes does that although brad generally just does what he does and makes noises of guns, locks, cars, crashes, splashes, alarms etc but i think the alarms is due to as a youngster living in a flat where they constantly set the communal alarm off and brad used to sit with his hands on his ears going lurrr lurrr lurrr lurrr imitating the noise, it mustve stuck with him as he identifies every camera and alarm the minute he walks into a room! Wow you can do alot of accents im rubbish!Oh Callum growls and barks when hes either angry or in hyper mode so i know that one well :) yeah you seem really mature for your years and you have a wicked sense of humour! Michael mcintyre is my most favourite comedian!! hes sooo funny! Its the way he says things rather than trying to be funny like you said :D brad tries so hard to make us laugh all the time, he hasnt figured yet that he makes us laugh naturally as he is mature in some ways and he will state something really obvious but he will put it in a statement and then be like really grown up whilst saying it, so then i giggle then he giggles and so we all end up giggling! Love the idea of talking to the desk, perhaps i should try talking to something like it, at least it cant answer me back and has to listen eh? :D and to make a friend through doing that is brilliant!! :) Yeah i think a lava lamp will be on the christmas list for my two older boys then he he! Brad is extremely obsessed with police, he rarely stops talking about them unless hes dancing or at gym. He at the age of 6 figured how to work virgin media so he could put the catch up tv on!! he watches cops on camera, police camera action and send in the dogs, hes obsessed! i didnt like the idea of him watching them but we just keep an eye on what hes watching and how he understands whats going on. You must be soo proud of your results thats amazing!! i barely managed a C in english, the rest of my grades were like d's and e's! Oops! not for not trying really i just didnt get it! Have had a giggle at the thought of can-can in an examination though :D social lives sometimes are over rated i think. I mean me and my hubby rarely go out and yet we have friends who go out all the time and their heads are filled with so much drama! i dont think theres anything better than relaxing at home in comfort :) Funny you mention about trips, Callums on his tomorrow to a toy museum, i dont know how he will be as his friend went in the other half but im sure he will be fine :) ahh brilliant i hope you have a really good appointment!! I will let you know how brad and callum get on tomorrow :) have a fab appointment tomorrow :)