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Advice book recommendations

Donnamazz

My son is 9 with Aspergers, he is exceptionally clever but struggles socially. My husband and I are looking for a good book to help us to cope with how to deal with him. We have looked at so many books but none seem to really include what we need. Any help and advice gratefully received. 

  • Its a novel as opposed to a guide to parenting an Autistic child, but I strongly recommend anyone with an ASV or any connection to such a person read Elisabeth Moon's Speed of Dark...

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    That's my first choice but I'm an aspie adult rather than an (aspie?) adult trying to bring up an aspie child. I'm not sure that it would be so useful in this context. It certainly helps describe the way that an aspie thinks and the problems we have with the world so it may be worth a look.

    can i ask if Donna could quote one of the bits about difficulties with instruction that doesn't seem to apply in this case? Then we might be able to interpret or identify soemthing better?

  • living well on the spectrum by Valerie Gaus maybe helpful.

    www.amazon.co.uk/.../ref=sr_1_1

    regards

    Coogybear

  • thanks for the info.

    We have read several and web links etc, but it always suggests that their difficulties would be with understanding an instruction, this is not the case for my son. I will have a look at your link and appreciate you taking the time to message me.

    If anyone has a good book in general then i would love your feedback on it

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    I don't think that you will find a single book for your son. He is a unique mixture of Asperger's and all of the other traits and features that make him an individual.

    You will have to read a number of books that teach you about parenting a child on the spectrum, parenting a gifted child, parenting a boy, parenting a child of that age etc etc. you will then have a range of tools and techniques and you will have to work out what to do in each situation. You shouldn't find too much conflict between the advice given as they will tend to advise consistency, providing boundaries, advising on how to deal with the world that has lots of ambiguity and uncertainty.

    have you looked at the range avaialble on Amazon for parenting a child on the spectrum?

    www.amazon.co.uk/.../ref=nb_sb_noss_1

    This includes books for parenting Aspergers children.