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Confusion around sexuality

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I wasn’t sure what thread to put this under as I haven’t used the website on here in a while. I’ve been questioning my sexuality, I’m a  21 year old female and i haven’t dated properly but i find myself drawn to the same sex.

The problem is I can’t tell if I’m attracted to the opposite sex or due to the fact it’s difficult for me to identity what emotions I’m feeling, i just convince myself i am. 

I am not so sure how to approach this issue.

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  • I think if I were a young person in todays world I'd feel confused too, not just about what I feel, or who, but about the expectations of the people around me. When I was younger, a child and teenager, I was often told I was to big to be a proper girl, that I was big enough to be a boy. What they meant was I'm tall and always was and am. When guys I fancied said stuff like this, it was confusing and alienating, oe even told me that I must be a lesbian because he didn't fancy me and he fancied women! I wonder if I would of just retreated in confusion or if I would have started questioning both my orientation and my gender.

    How does it feel if you fantasise about a woman or a man, touching them, being touched by them? This could be a way of exploring if you're attracted one one or both genders or neither.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    women, it’s a good feeling, men only a good feeling if it’s an unattainable figure like celebrities or fictional characters is what I’m thinking. for example if I’m watching a tv show where both male characters are together and exploring eachother, weird as it sounds that feels good, imagining myself in that position is where the lines blurr for me and it becomes more difficult 

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    women, it’s a good feeling, men only a good feeling if it’s an unattainable figure like celebrities or fictional characters is what I’m thinking. for example if I’m watching a tv show where both male characters are together and exploring eachother, weird as it sounds that feels good, imagining myself in that position is where the lines blurr for me and it becomes more difficult 

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