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Confusion around sexuality

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I wasn’t sure what thread to put this under as I haven’t used the website on here in a while. I’ve been questioning my sexuality, I’m a  21 year old female and i haven’t dated properly but i find myself drawn to the same sex.

The problem is I can’t tell if I’m attracted to the opposite sex or due to the fact it’s difficult for me to identity what emotions I’m feeling, i just convince myself i am. 

I am not so sure how to approach this issue.

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  • I think if I were a young person in todays world I'd feel confused too, not just about what I feel, or who, but about the expectations of the people around me. When I was younger, a child and teenager, I was often told I was to big to be a proper girl, that I was big enough to be a boy. What they meant was I'm tall and always was and am. When guys I fancied said stuff like this, it was confusing and alienating, oe even told me that I must be a lesbian because he didn't fancy me and he fancied women! I wonder if I would of just retreated in confusion or if I would have started questioning both my orientation and my gender.

    How does it feel if you fantasise about a woman or a man, touching them, being touched by them? This could be a way of exploring if you're attracted one one or both genders or neither.

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  • I think if I were a young person in todays world I'd feel confused too, not just about what I feel, or who, but about the expectations of the people around me. When I was younger, a child and teenager, I was often told I was to big to be a proper girl, that I was big enough to be a boy. What they meant was I'm tall and always was and am. When guys I fancied said stuff like this, it was confusing and alienating, oe even told me that I must be a lesbian because he didn't fancy me and he fancied women! I wonder if I would of just retreated in confusion or if I would have started questioning both my orientation and my gender.

    How does it feel if you fantasise about a woman or a man, touching them, being touched by them? This could be a way of exploring if you're attracted one one or both genders or neither.

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