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Confusion around sexuality

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I wasn’t sure what thread to put this under as I haven’t used the website on here in a while. I’ve been questioning my sexuality, I’m a  21 year old female and i haven’t dated properly but i find myself drawn to the same sex.

The problem is I can’t tell if I’m attracted to the opposite sex or due to the fact it’s difficult for me to identity what emotions I’m feeling, i just convince myself i am. 

I am not so sure how to approach this issue.

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  • Back in the day, I think the 1970s, there was a practical system for divining sexual orientation. It involved making a note of the gender of people you found sexually attractive, or just attractive, you encountered when in public during daily life. I think it was up to the first 10 people, this, it was claimed, would give you a measure of how sexually attracted you were to each gender, with bisexuals scoring around the middle.

  • in reply to Martin

    I must be very boring because I never found anyone particularly sexually attractive. My parents were ill-suited and always arguing or 'silent'. I never learned to 'relate.' Perhaps knowing the 'signals' is part gene-inherited, part learned and part instinctive. 

    pietro_21 said:
    At the moment, I prefer to be alone; however, for years I dated and lived with people.

    That sounds like me! I was married, twice, in the conventional sense, but never happy - both very coercive men. Perhaps 'mono sexual' should be recognised as an official sexuality. I've been criticised for 'being unnatural' or 'cold' when I still have 'heart' and physical feelings as strong as anyone else. I've lived a full life despite living alone for 40 years.

  • in reply to Marianne72

    I think I’m more like you…. Would prefer to find a long term partner somebody with good amount of emotional intelligence and interested in art and social sciences. However I now no longer think I will let anybody in again…. My own company is the way forward 

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