Yeah I’m considering leaving the forum as I feel I no longer fit in here now and I seem to have become burdensome in some way so yeah I guess the time has come for me to leave. I have enjoyed my time here but I guess things change and move on.
Yeah I’m considering leaving the forum as I feel I no longer fit in here now and I seem to have become burdensome in some way so yeah I guess the time has come for me to leave. I have enjoyed my time here but I guess things change and move on.
Yeah that's a difficult spot, but I think I understand it a little.
My son isn't on any social media either, he has a small group of friends and that seems to work. Although he lives in Norway now and he is struggling to make a friend there.
You know what if older people are so narrow that they think because someone is younger they know less somehow then that's their choice and their loss.
Young people energise us and boy do we need to be energised sometimes.
You have great value!
You matter!!
I completely agree there. I’ve also been able to see things from other perspectives since joining this forum. Words can be very powerful trust me! Though I will admit the negative words are more powerful when used against me compared to the positive words used for me if that makes sense. Like I believe the negatives but not the positives. Ahh I’m the same age as your son but I’ll be 26 in December. I don’t feel I fit in with my age group at all as they all just seem to be into tiktok and other social media which I just can’t get into and I get labelled the outcast from my age group but then other age groups seem to look down on me because I am the age I am.
I think the diversity on here is what makes it so good. I get to see things from different perspectives. I learn lots from my son who is only 25. Never underestimate the effect your words might have on someone's life.
You didn’t upset me at all. I understand about the comfort, say it’s much harder to comfort people online anyway (well I always think) 
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Hiya Lonehare12
aww thank you so much for your kind words and being so understanding about how I am feeling.
It’s a horrible feeling isn’t it? And yes the reassurance is all it takes to make you feel better sometimes!
love the smily face by the way! Reminds me of Kirby, especially my Kirby plushy!
HiElfilis
Don’t be hard on yourself. Things just feel harder when you’re already stressed.
Do what you feel is best for you, and if you are still enjoying your time here, please stay.
I know this feeling well too!!
Sometimes a little reassurance is all that is needed.
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I suppose I could be a part of it. I might do a little Halloween post later on or a left handed and right handed post. Could do some gaming posts too and other stuff. Guess I just get nervous lol. But yeah the parents can stick either their cliques and we can stay with ours. Say I’m not the best with socialising so though I have been here for nearly 4 months I’m still trying to get used to communicating with others. But I have had some great conversations with users including yourself so it would be a shame to leave.
I just don’t understand why parents take a dislike to me. I’ve got better things to do than waste time thinking about it though I think my problem is I can’t just shake off and ignore. Guess that’s something I will be working on with my psychologist.
Im gonna cheer myself up and do some ring fit now.
I know this feeling. I won't try to write much, I'm not good at comforting. I wish you well and you are always welcome here. Hope didn't upset you.
normally I come here for some support but as I said I’ve felt quite excluded lately.
How about being part of the change in tone here that you want to see?
What subjects do you find interesting and what do you want to see discussed?
If we create some momentum behind new posts like these then the other posts will still be there for the parents and we can all have what we want?
Best of all it will help you feel that you are taking steps to help yourself and not be at the mercy of the ebb & flow of things.
Thank you for replying. I might just have a bit of a break as you say. I am struggling in real life at the moment so that probably isn’t helping with how I feel. I don’t want to delete but as I said I just feel I’ve maybe upset people even though I don’t intend to.
There isplace for everyone here. It depends on you, your decision, but maybe you can just consider making a break. And then whenever you wish, you can come back. I wish you best whatever you chose.
Yeah with the post you could say I am thinking unkindly which I get and I’ll admit that. The thing is I normally bring everyone’s mail and parcels to them. I will admit I don’t get much mail but if I do it just seems to be left by the main door but everyone else’s has either been posted or left outside their doors if that makes sense. Guess I just feel a bit miffed because I’m always taking and even signing their parcels and they should know it’s me because I’ve seen the couriers write don my name and flat number confirming that I was the one who took parcels in. But if I have parcels no one ever takes them in so my parcels are covered in dirt and stuff and even soaked if raining. I mean yeah these are silly things that probably don’t bother most people but I’m not like those other people. It just feels like I’m being isolated from the community and they don’t like that the previous owner here has died and I have moved in but I can’t help that the person died. It’s life (and death). Like they don’t seem to like me and have judged me before getting to know me. I mean I’m friendly with the lady downstairs but yeah.
I have noticed people seem to come for ranting and I have also don’t a few rant posts myself, sometimes it’s just what you need and validation is needed as well like this post of mine here really. But I do feel that I am getting excluded because majority of posts now are only aimed at parents and only parents are allowed to reply. If I’ve tried saying my advice from the preteen view I just get ignored or downvoted so yeah I delete my comments. I just saw the post about needing new mods so that could be the case of why this forum seems to have gone well strange in my opinion. I was wanting to do a post about who likes and doesn’t like Halloween but with like things being the way they are I might just stay quiet.
Sorry if I have misunderstood anything you have said by the way. As I said I’m just feeling in a bit of a slump lately and normally I come here for some support but as I said I’ve felt quite excluded lately. I mean they are my feelings though.
It’s like why can’t everyone just be kind?
I think it is just down to human nature.
When you think about it you felt annoyed at your neighbours for not bringing your post - that could be considered to be unkind but it was a natural feeling to you just as it would be to anyone else I imagine in that situation.
I'm not saying you were bad here, just that a utopia of kindness seems at loggerheads with the human condition - and it gets worse as people lose the aspect of being face to face with another human when they say the things they say.
I’ve tried being helpful from the “child/teen” point of view but that’s when I get ignored a
My thoughts are that people very often come here to vent and seek validation rather than actually looking for help. It is something I am still not great at spotting which leads to many ignored responses.
For me I'm content if I see a positive response to maybe one in ten posts as this is what I found to be the norm.
My mentor taught me not to sweat the small stuff as life is too short. Do what you can and get on with your life, and if that makes some good happen along the way then great.
I do feel like this isn’t really a forum for like everyone at the moment but again could be my paranoia.
It is a bit odd at the moment but I notice we are short of mod interactions for long periods of time so it may just be a staffing issue (probably why they are recruiting volunteers now) and since there is always a churn of posters then it is probably just a phase we are going through.
Aww thank you! I could just be going through a low phase at the moment. I did have a meltdown last night so that’s not really helped and struggling with people in real life too.
Yeah I will be honest I do feel this has become more of a mumsnet thing lately and I’ve also noticed they say only parents should respond. I’ve tried being helpful from the “child/teen” point of view but that’s when I get ignored and then I feel stupid for posting and then I just delete the sodding thing I wrote. I have been bullied in real life by expecting parents so I guess that doesn’t help me. It could just be all my traumas of the bullying getting the better of me but I don’t know. Say all the bully neighbours at my parents and now in my flat aren’t helping me. Sorry for the rant there. But I do feel like this isn’t really a forum for like everyone at the moment but again could be my paranoia.
I have been offended and hurt by other users in the past I will be honest. But I’ve never wanted to say anything as I hate to get into fights/arguments and I just want to respect all the views but I would get upset if I was criticised for my views if that makes sense. It’s like why can’t everyone just be kind? But then that’s me and my fantasy land haha. Having EUPD doesn’t help and I feel I need people to be kind to me so I don’t feel so rubbish, not wanting to sound a diva in anyway and I know my EUPD and autism are not great excuses. I have enjoyed your posts though and I have found the religion ones to be very interesting.
I agree with TheCatWoman :)
I think it's phase the site's going through, it's gone through more parent/child phases before, but this site should accomodate everyone.
I don#t seen that you've annoyed anyone and if someone has been annoyed by something you've said, then on the whole it's thier problem not your's, especailly as you've not set out to be hurtful, has it occured to you that you have a right to be annoyed by ohers, that its not all one way? I know I've upset and offended some on here, I post often on contravercial topics and often have to bite my tongue and not say what I really think or find a more diplomatic way of saying it, but people have a choice about what threads and topics they engage with and some people are a sense of offence looking for somewhere to manifest.Funnily enough they're often the people who shout the loudest about free speech, free speech seems to be OK as long as it them speeking and not anyone who disagrees with them.
Aww you aren’t guilt tripping me at all. I’m not wanting to go but I just feel that I’m not really able to be helpful and I worry I have caused some issues and angered people when I wasn’t intending to do so. I’ve also noticed a lot of posts seem to be more parent related now and as I am not a parent I can’t comment so again I guess I feel more like I’m just in the way and like I don’t belong here. That could be how I’ve been treated in real life over the years though, it’s a long story.
I would miss our convos too and it could just be a phase I’m going through feeling this way but I just felt I needed to post how I feel.
Thank you for replying x
Without wanting to guilt trip you into staying, I will miss you if you go, as I've really enjoyed talking with you and getting to know you a little. I don't feel you to be burdensome in any way and I'm sorry if you're being made to feel like this.
