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Irritating neighbours

Sporadic Sparkly

Do you have neighbours who annoy the heck out of you?

Back in the summer, I received an unexpected visit from my council housing officer and one of her colleagues. The reason being that a complaint had been made to the council about the state of my garden. Furthermore, the complainant had also contacted the MP for my area, which had resulted in the MP putting pressure on the council to get their tenant (me) to sort out their neglected and overgrown eyesore of a garden.

My son had been with me when this visit took place. Although the housing officer could not tell us who the complainant was, my son and I were both 99.9% sure that the complainant was a particular neighbour of ours who has a reputation for being a bit of a bully.

Fortunately for me, my local council know that I can struggle physically. It was made clear that if I was perfectly able-bodied, the pressure being applied by the MP would have resulted in the council pursuing the legal route and taking me to court. That said, if I was perfectly able-bodied, it's unlikely that I would have allowed my garden to end up becoming an eyesore.

It wasn't the complaint as such that irked me, but the fact that the complainant had not considered the option of sharing their concerns about my garden with me first. I'm not an unreasonable person, or at least I don't think I am. 

I have what I consider to be a good rapport with the rest of my neighbours, but it seems like this one particular neighbour seems to take great delight in trying to antagonise and intimidate anyone and everyone to get what he wants. As my son said, if the state of my garden was causing the neighbour distress, there was nothing stopping them from going down the neighbourly route and offering to help me get it sorted.

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  • Ugh I know I’m taking a break or said I would but I need to rant here. Omg I can’t take it with next door anymore I’m fed up of that brat kid crying whenever he sees me! EVERYTIME he walks past he asked why the old lady before isn’t living there anymore. Fed up of him banging and ruining my new door and now he’s even throwing and kicking balls on my window! The fact no one tells him off or anything! Must I be reminded I’m the world ugliest person? It’s easy to act like I don’t care but when I’m alone I end up crying I’m wanting to cry now! I want to report and complain but I’m worried I’ll get in a worse situation! What is it with kids born from 2013 onwards as to why they hate me? Andwhy do their parents and relatives hate me? Sorry I’m really struggling now

  • in reply to Elfilis

    I've never looked at your face, but even if you had a scary mask I can't believe that I would see you as ugly, let alone the worlds ugliest person, because I know you from your writing's here I see a beautiful soul. As you get older what is on the inside will become more apparent on the outside and the world will see your true beauty, as that comes from within. All the pretty people with "nice" faces and horrible minds will become pinched and ugly over time, the lines in their faces will show that they present a face to the world like a cats backside, their foreheads will show scowl lines as will thier eyes and mouths. Your will show how much you laugh and smile and love.

    Why do you believe you're the ugliest person in the world?

    Maybe the lad was close to the woman who lived in your falt before you and thats why he's upset that she's not thier anymore?

    Lots of parents don't care or are worn down and out trying to survive, or they dont' know how to talk about aging and dying?

    You can get a restraining order or an ASBO type of things against them, by the sounds of it things could hardly become much worse. Are they tennants or owners? If they're tennants then you have some hope of getting them moved, if they own the place then it's much much harder, I know as I've been there with neighbours myself.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I’m not too sure but I think they are owners Sob but if this carries on I might have to look into a restraining order. I can’t help the fact that the old lady had died but he doesn’t seem to want to accept it. But he and this little girl seem to enjoy banging on my door and then running back into their flat. I say their flat I actually think it’s their Nan who lives but they stay a lot much to my displeasure! As you say there are lots of parents who don’t seem to care and it does really boil my blood, especially when I get all the brunt of everything well that’s how it feels anyway. Another thing I suffered with since 2013 was the hormone/pregnancy excuse so that doesn’t help my C PTSD. I think they think being parents is all fairy tale and easy! I’m sorry I never really wanted to say all this but I just feel I need to get it off my chest. 

    Oh and I know we have never met and probably never will (in this life time at least) but I want to thank you for reassuring me that you don’t think I’m ugly. I think I have a very nice soul and I personally think I’m a very kind hearted and gentle person who is genuine but unfortunately I have been taken advantage of. I keep thinking I’m ugly because we’ll all the neighbours here and where my parents live but also over the years I’ve been compared to so many different people but it was since my work issue that I have been manipulated into believing I am ugly and no one would want me and if I refused this bloke who said all this then I’ll be lonely forever. Think I’d rather have loneliness than be stuck with a creep like him ugh. And all these people who think they are “pretty” or something are not at all in my opinion but that’s when I was told I do think they are nice looking I’m too jealous to admit it. Like I’m fed up of being told we should look like this or fancy so and so. I mean why can’t people just let us have our opinions and respect it. It’s hard to live with the unfairness I tell you.

    Sorry this went on a bit but thank you for talking and making me feel better. 

  • in reply to Elfilis

    You'll have to be a kitten and think it through, fluff up tail, lay back ears, take a deep breath and FFFfffffff

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