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Travelling!

Miffo

Hey everyone, Matthew here.

For a while now I have had issues with travelling in the car. I have car sickness medicen and yet I am afraid to go out in the car. Sometimes I can go out, but for me sometimes isn't good enough. I want to go out a lot but most of the time I can't bring myself to go out, and that's a problem because of my ill Gran my Dad finds himself going to see her a lot and sometimes I want to go with him but cannot.

I just wanted to know if anyone else has the same problems as me. And if you do please could you tell me how you manage to go out because for me it is a real issue, one I don't seem to be able to solve. I do have a fear of being sick but it can't be that because I have medicen so what do you suggest i do, does anyone else have the same issues?

Thanks to everyone who replies.

Regards,

Matthew. Smile

  • Hey Recombinantsocks,

    Don't get me wrong I do enjoy going to see my gran but she has Alzhimers. This means that she does not know her own family, she talks utter nosnese and sadly also has cancer. You're right, the staff in her carehome are very nice to her and my family. My dad never gets angry when I don't travel, he and my mum try not to put preassure on me, they say I'll go out when I'm ready but sometimes ready seems very far away...

    Sometimes I do look back on my best moments. Last year my gran was poorly and my mum went to stay up with her. When my mum was ready to come home I went with dad to go and get her and I didn't even take my car sickness medicen. That was a good day for me. I have some good travel days and I also have bad travel days, for me it kind of gets crushed once I feel bad in the car, it sets me back and I don't go out for ages. I'm going to do as you suggested, I'll try and focus on the positives and not the negatives.

    Thanks for your help. I'm really grateful.

    Thank you.

    Regards,

    Matthew.

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    Former Member

    I expect that you don't really look forward to going to see your Gran, is she in hospital or a home? I have had to visit people in hospital and old people's homes (before I was diagnosed with AS) and I always found it very stressful as I often imagined myself in their position. This might get easier each time you go as you get used to it more and you get to know that the staff are usually nice and helpful and caring.

    Also, you can be proud of yourself about the times that you are able to go. I expect your dad is pleased that you can go sometimes as this will give him some company and someone to talk to. I hope he isn't angry that you don't feel able to go every time?

    Sometimes I think it helps if you focus and remember the things that you CAN do, like sometimes going to see your gran, rather than things you CAN'T do like not being able to see your gran every time.

  • Recombinantsocks,

    Thanks for the reply. I don't think it's the noise of the car though your right, it could be. I'll also look in to the noise cancelling headphones, those might help. Thank you so much for replying.

    Regards,

    Matthew.

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Matthew,

    Is it the noise and commotion related to going in a car that is the problem rather than the motion of the car? Your car sickness pills will try and deal with the motion sickness rather than the stressy situation of being in a car with other people, in noisy traffic.

    Have you got a mp3 player with some of your music to listen to? You might find it calming to listen to this (choose a nice, calming track rather than some heavy metal!) both before and during your journey.

    Have you tried noise cancelling headphones? I have some audio technica quietpoint ear phones (about £50 on amazon) that work quite well when I am trying to concentrate. They keep out a lot of traffic noise and this may help you too?