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Angry day

cloud8100

Hi Smile

So basically, I woke up fine and made breakfast for my family (which is unusual as I usually panic about cooking but I decided to try) and I don't mind going to the shops to get stuff. But only when I'm told in advance. Generally, the previous day in advance, or I just feel like it throws my whole day out the window because its something I haven't incorporated into it. I feel like my family don't understand in that they more think I am being lazy rather than it really throws me off my 'routine' as it suddenly makes me feel like I am really busy and I guess I overwhelm myself and panic. Because of this, I spent basically the rest of the day feeling angry and not speaking but I don't really get how to change that.

Does anyone have any tips on how I could maybe go to the shops at shorter notice or not get exceedingly angry at others and go into 'mute' mode because of changes in routine? 

  • Thats a good comparison with the tv listings. That happens all the time lately lol. I can understand why having kids would encourage you to focus on it!

    I've been having a fair bit of routine distruption lately as we are selling the house so we've had to move everything and sort stuff out for the pictures and stuff. Undecided. I guess I'm getting some more experience in it now though so its a good thing Tongue Out.

  • Since having kids I've had to get used to disrupted routines (though they're still not easy!). fwiw I find it helps to think in terms of a limited number of alternative routines, like when TV listings give a 'schedule A' and a 'schedule B' depending on which football match is showing. :)

  • Was a solo shop.  Well, I could understand where they were coming from in terms of just wanting to send me out as we use the basics essentially most the time but at the same time I just can't do the spontaneous act of getting up and going out like that. It really hits me for the rest of the day. I will try speaking properly about it with my family next time though. Thanks for replying Smile. 

  • Are we talking about a solo mission to a shop, or a group outing? I find online shopping and solo missions are fine, and a good way to avoid group outings, although sometimes the motivation for the latter is not so much to buy things, more 'fun' (for other people!). Similarly, it's worth knowing whether there's a genuine urgent need for something from the shop or whether your family is enjoying being spontaneous. (I hate spontaneity.) So fwiw I would say you need to get across what you need and understand what others need, in the reasonable hope that there's a solution that satisfies both.