Never a day goes by when I don't do something that I believe someone wants me to do, only to find they didn't and I'm actually treading on their toes.
I try to be helpful and productive. I'm sure you guys can relate how keeping busy can distract you and stop you from overthinking everything.
I will be told by someone, "I've done X Y Z even before you've done one thing". This is often just a statement and not necessarily a criticism - just a fact. So, I try to be helpful, to ease some of the burden. However, I get told things like, "I don't need you to do that! I'm perfectly capable!" I tend to get annoyed by this.
I know part of the problem is that I don't have a set routine. I will lurch from task to task with a sense that "this might not be the right thing to do, but it feels right to at least do something". So, it feels hurtful when what I do is either wrong, unnecessary and/or half-cocked. I do things at the wrong time, in the wrong way or do something that wasn't required. Then, if I do nothing, thinking "those that do nothing make no mistakes", im told I am being lazy. It feels like a lose/lose situation.
Sometimes I will do a task that feels right to me, not thinking about what the other person wants, but instead thinking "they will like this" or "it's not the same, but it's a good alternative". I'm told that I should communicate if I'm unsure of doing something. It makes the other person think i am selfish. Yet, in my head, I was sure, or at least as sure as I'm going to be sure (nothing is ever 100%. I'm always doubting myself).
I know it's down to misinterpretation. I can often see what needs doing, but worry that I'm doing it at the wrong time or in the wrong way.
Does misinterpreting people affect your daily life like this?