Are we the bad guys in life, as well as in film?

I've been wanting to write this for about three years pretty much ever since I joined the forum, but thought it might be a bit triggering for some.

Now I'm on moderation I guess, IS the time to do it, because if I say anything that is wrongspeak, then at least it might get filtered before I upset anyone.

This thought was triggered many, many years ago when my child was not in her thirties, and we were watching a cartoon and the villain of the piece started to talk about his frustrating life and upbringing etc. and I recognised my own circumstances!  All the things that cartoon villain (and many more screen villains before him) described had been a part of my upbringing, and I'd felt the urge to crush, kill, destroy just like they report, but in my case I found that sort of thing to be really unsatisfying and not the life I wanted to lead lead (or role I wanted to pay?) So evil villainly became a part of my character rather than the whole thing.  

Now to be honest, there are some people here, who lack my ineffably sunny disposition ( Oh that's funny! One of my best..) and may actually be bad guys, but would they know it? Certainly my experience is some of the worst things I've done, I was quite convinced were righteous at the time...

Then there's the way N.T's react to us and then interact with us.

Do THEY see us as the good guys?.

I find this unsettling to contemplate, but today as I read some current events that are happening in the states, where much is being made of the perpetrators Autism diagnosis, and see the discussion starting to happen in "mainstream" (by my standards) media I think we ought to ask oursleves some searching questions about the nature of Autism and have asome answers ready for anyone who ask before we get further marginalised as a group.  

  • I was raised in a bad environment, a bad school, and I lived with bad people. When I was young, I almost did something bad, but I held back. I thought that I would miss them and that I didn’t want to go to prison. Sometimes this thought comes to me when they make me angry, but I keep saying to myself, “Good morning, you’re beautiful, leave them alone.” as human being we have bright side and dark side.. The criminal might be normal, trans, autistic, ather sickness,, but what is the motivation of the crime? 

  • Yes there are good autists. Elon Musk is one.

  • Thankyou Mark.  I'm glad someone agrees with me.  I sometimes think I am going insane.

  • Free speech is a such a tricky one. As a liberal, I am mostly for it, but have my limits (probably the same limits as you). What annoys me is that free speech absolutists seem to be the quickest to shut down any free speech that disagrees with their views and they completely miss the irony. EM is meant to be very guilty of this. I've not read into it too much, though.

  • Yes.  I no longer believe in free speech absolutism because of the way speech is used by bad actors.  Absolute free speech has not existed in the uk for 50 years.  I don't want to return to the 1970's where people can say anything they want with no fear of consequences.  Even in the USA, you cannot shout fire in a public theatre.  


  • One handy rule of thumb that I have to evaluate an ideology is "How many people will die horribly as a result of them getting their way?".

  • My point is that "having principles and standing by them" automatically attracts hate and bigotry. 

    A.K.A. "No good deed goes unpunished". or the military version "If you are taking flak, then it means you are approaching the target"

    Since being Autistic also seems to invoke an almost instinctive revulsion in some people, (it's like they can smell it), expressing an opinion, let alone standing by a principle is a very brave thing to do indeed. 

    The question really comes intto focus when you consider your card carrying committed national socialist, A.K.A. "Nazi". He has principles and beliefs, which are well known and generally held to be abhorrent to all. Worse, if you try and engage with such a person, he will explain to you exactly what adolf was trying to achieve in the face of adversity, he will not only blame, but explain in great detail, why the third Reich identified a tiny bunch of people as the cause of the nations ills, and in short have a whole mindset that is almost completely alien to any rational person!

    If such a person were to turn up here, (I am not he, nor have I ever met such a person in real life, but I've seen plenty of evidence that they exist) From his perspective he'd encounter nothing but hatred and bigotry.. It's all a question of perspective.

    The antidote to "hatred" for me has been to excercise my right to complain about, and criticise those who I hold to be "faulty". In a free speech environment, of course there is an immediat echo chamber effect as all the other people who have that particular beef with the xxxxist's chime in, but there's always someone who makes the other sides point of view.

    After a bit of to and fro, (in a free speech environment) when the facts are established the phrase, which I might utter myself, "Be careful of those XXXians they don't think like us, and don't respect our ways. if you give them half a chance they'll come back and nick your stuff" stops being "hate speech", and joins the category of speech that includes, "Be careful of that red cap on the back of the TV tube, if you get to touchy feely it'll hurt you".       

    BUT to get to the basic wisdom or fallacy that underlies peoples predjudices, and work towards a solution that doesn't require someone to lose their life, teeth, or dignity is simply too big an ask for most people myself included, sometimes.  

    I have made myself sad about being human now...

    I think I'll turn this off now and go pump 100 litres of kerosine into jerrycans.. 

  • It certainly is.  There's a difference between the principles of Packham and hate and bigotry though.

  • Wow. I just googled him, and found this. https://news.sky.com/story/chris-packham-fears-hate-fuelled-psychopath-could-kill-him-in-woods-libel-trial-hears-12872205 

    It's dangerous sometimes having principles and beliefs and trying to live by them..

  • The idea of an autistic person inspiring the fanatical devotion of millions through oratory and hypnotic personality is a bit far fetched for me.

  • OK.....so I've read and reflected.

    I'm sure some people who do bad things, either do so;

    a) knowing that the things are bad.

    b) thinking that those bad things are righteous.

    c) having no apparent conscience, so presumably don't give a hoot either way.

    d) not bothering to think too hard about whether things are good or bad.

    e) intentionally - for whatever reasons they have.

    f) unintentionally - for whatever causes exist.

    g) by compulsion - for whatever reasons they have.

    This is not an exhaustive list, and neither are items on the list mutually exclusive - ie more than one can apply in any given situation..

    I really don't think that autism has any special or peculiar bearing on which of these possible "reasons" apply to a perpetrator of "bad things" any more than any other influence.

    Furthermore,  whether a human observer to these "bad things" is autistic, otherwise ND or generally NT, then "human nature" will always cause the observer to want to try and understand why the "bad things" have happened and will look for identifiable "features" of the perpetrator or identifiable "features" of the circumstances surrounding those "bad things." 

    I think this matter is universal to the human condition - whether as a perpetrator or as an observer.

    I think these things have nowt to do with autism.

    Just my opinion.....as always.

  • Phew, good to know. I thought the Austrian corporal was looking a bit "spergy" to me, and I'm happy to be corrected!

    So. Have there been any outstandingly GOOD Autists we can think of?  

  • To be honest this actually got written whilst I was on moderation but I let it sit for a while, and then posted afterwards, when I was off moderation, but I did mail them, and ask if they'd give it the once over. 

    And to be fair the question has been on my mind for a long time. I'm still certain it is a fair one to ask.

  • I make zero mistakes now after enough research.

    May I be facile before revealing my genuine confusion?

    Congratualtions, JuniperFromGallifrey, I never ever thought I see my imaginary political party finally find a member. Welcome to the "Always Right Party" so far, (subject to checking the veracity of the above statement) you are our sole, fully Qualified member! Awesome!

    O.K. In the real world I don't think you meant that in such a blanket way as I read it, and since actually I've never seen you be really wrong, I'd like to ask for a bit of clarifcation as to what you meant. 

    *Edit* Please. Although I'm supposed to be fairly bright, I really am lost with that sentence.

  • I commend, and salute you, for the considered methodology and timing of this "charged" interjection.

    Beyond that commendation.....I will need time to read, and reflect upon, both your OP and the comments from our esteemed compadres below.

    I will be back to this.....it is a very important moot that you have raised.  I have missed you being around Mr Isperg.

  • The real villains of history have most definitely been allistic. This is because they all (Hitler, Stalin, Attila, Genghis Khan etc.) have shown highly developed skills in understanding, inspiring and manipulating people as individuals and in masses, skills that autistics typically lack any vestiges of.

  • The system wanted our Adult lives to reflect our Schooldays; cliques, pigeonholed by interests.

    TV exacerbated this compartmentalisation. Especially whenever it came to conflict between a Husband and his Wife. Commercials played that, to a tee. Think of Oxo, and Nescafé Gold Blend. They were prototype Goggleboxes.

    Now, we're seeing the fruits born of this division. Nations divided on differences, which strike at the core of society. Meanwhile, our enemies work together. Exploiting our lack of cohesion.

  • My concern is that some sociopathic people may get misdiagnosed as autistic, as both conditions can exhibit: non typical responses to verbal cues, a lack of empathy, rigid thinking, and impulsive /risk taking behaviour. 

    However, as I understand it autistic people do feel empathy, but it's more often emotional empathy or compassionate empathy, rather than cognitive, so "looks" different or is not seen. Autistic impulsive behaviour usually stems from difficulties with inhibitory control or understanding the potential outcomes of actions, whereas in sociopathic individuals it's a lack of regard for consequences.

    Sociopathy also includes manipulative behaviour, disregard for ethics/morals/the rights of others, and lack of remorse or guilt. As far as I'm aware, these are not traits usually seen in autistic people.

    Of course, autistic people can behave badly, but we're not "the bad guys" in life, we usually suffer with regret and remorse when we act in a way we think is bad. And I believe that we self censor more than NTs and are harder on ourselves.

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