Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi there. I have been informed at work that I appear short and sharp when sometimes liaising with colleagues regarding tasks, i.e. asking for updates etc. I get anxious when information isn't clear about a task or project I may be working on or if I don't understand the answers I have been given when raising a query with a colleague. This leads to me taking to them abruptly. Some people are aware at work of my ASD but I am looking for tips on what I can do to prevent this from happening and so I can sound less abrupt in these situations.
NAS93922 said:I am looking for tips on what I can do to prevent this from happening and so I can sound less abrupt in these situations.
My advice is to let your colleagues know that one aspect of your autism is that you need clarity on tasks and don't make assumptions so expect questions if full details are not given.
Tell them you may come across as abrupt but it is not your intent to be rude, so their understanding would be appreciated.
A good tip is to do something nice for the team once a month (e.g. bring in a Crispy Creme doughnut tray or bake a cake) to say thanks for being good colleagues.
Any new colleagues can get forwarded the email once they settle in to introduce yourself.
In general though, be abrupt and own it - it is your natural condition after all so don't try to be like all the rest. If you do think someone has taken offence then take a few mins with them to say "is eveything OK between us - I feel that I may have offended you somehow." and this should get it explained or shrugged off by them.