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Got any nightmare flatmate stories? Post them here if you want

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I've just got out of a nightmare flatmate scenario and was feeling very depressed about it today. About an hour ago I found the reddit r/badflatmates and it really helped... I'm really not alone in having a string of horrible and even abusive flatmates.

Does anyone have any nightmare flatmate stories? Please post them here if you have them, they honestly make me feel better!

If you're curious, my latest flatmate was OCD about cleaning and not in a good way. She mopped the floor every night at midnight, noisily, and woke me up doing so. I told her to stop several times and she didn't. She complained constantly about that flat missing this and that. She would regularly emotionally unload on me and not respect me when I didn't want her to talk to me and told her to stop. I was getting fed up because it was clear it wasn't all about her "mental health" and more she was using me as an emotional punchbag. I was very pleased when she gave notice in writing - finally, she's gone! Unfortunately she was nothing but trouble in the actual leaving process because she refused to pay rent and threatened to sue me.

Well, I collected evidence and told her any further emails or interaction from her will result in the police being called and off she scarpered.

Fortunately my current flatmate is wonderful, but that's because I already knew her from a family friend. I'm worried about the next time I'll need to find a flatmate on spareroom and the like (this flatmate actually had a clean reference record before me as well....)...

  • Several years ago a distant cousin moved in with us because we had a spare room.  She made our lives hell.  She complained all the time, never helped with anything, ate all our food and still complained.  She found a job but still refused to pay rent because " I'm family".  We asked her to move out but she refused and insisted that we find her a place to live and pay her rent.  

    Things got even worse when she asked for £50,000 .  We refused, she suggested we sell the house and give her the money for it.  

    Finally after over a year of hell she left.

  • in reply to Allyboo

    Yes! 

    Not paying when everyone else had to - outrageous! 

  • in reply to Pegg

    A happy ending to your story  Slight smile

  • I shared a student house with 3 others, 2 I knew before we moved in, both private individuals who kept themselves to themselves, we spent as much or as little time together as we wanted, and were generally in agreement on most household matters. 

    The fourth - well. She approached us looking for a place to live because she couldn't find anywhere- should've been a red flag in hindsight. As the rent would be cheaper and we had a spare room, we agreed. 

    What an error! She was annoyingly intrusive, obsessed with cleaning- really. She would come back late at night, when everyone else was in bed and start noisily cleaning the house. She scrubbed the pans until the non-stick coating came off! 

    Well, it was annoying, but, we could just about cope. But then, she would never pay for anything! We all took turns to buy household items, but getting her to do it was almost impossible! And on the few occasions she did, she bought as little and as cheap as possible! 

    We had a cat who came to live with us, randomly, as cays do, and she hated him! She chased and even kicked him - and he was the nicest, softest cat in the world. 

    And then, when we all left uni, she changed her phone so we couldn't chase her for final bills! 

    Although we tracked her down in the end. 

  • My stories are not about flatmates, but housemates when I lived in shared houses.

    As a student in Sheffield, I lived in real dumps.  In one house I lived on the first floor and one evening the woman living below me came banging on my door to complain about " my music", I let her in and used sign language to communicate with her, pointing at the ceiling to explain that the loud music was actually coming from the flat above me.

  • in reply to Hullabaloo

    It's an interesting point you make, maybe that's a reason why most couples live together for a few years before marrying compared to the past where there's no live together period before marrying... Don't want to sign any kind of contract before you know if you can stand the other person's living habits! Sweat smileOpen mouth

  • in reply to Allyboo

    The simple solution would be just living by myself, and indeed I did that 3 years ago but cost of living hit and it became necessary to have a flatmate to cover costs...

    Gumtree is also a good place to find people, the best you can do is get references from everyone's last places, meet up with them before showing the flat and fingers crossed they're a decent flatmate... 

  • Yes, consistently shocking (and I've moved around 25 times so far). The last 2 1/2 years I've been staying with my mother a few days each week since her husband died. It's the first time I've done that since I left (many miles away) when I was 17 in 1991. It's definitely 'challenging' (e.g. my mother and sister have been estranged for over 20 years now). Hopefully it's helpful in the long run to be doing it and have done it and I look forward to 'moving on'. It's helpful you've mentioned Spareroom, I was unaware of that, thanks Slight smile

  • I haven't had to live with flatmates, but I know that living with other people can be a nightmare for all kinds of reasons. I mean, a friend can be nice to hang out with,  but can be an actual nightmare to live with. Even in relationships, I don't really care about the dating stuff and eating out together, as much as I'd care about how it would be like to live with them,  because if I married them and we couldn't live together and had arguments all the time, then why bother?