Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi everyone, i’m struggling with meltdowns from being overwhelmed and exhausted atm, and i’m finding one person close to me really struggles to deal with me when i’m having one. They really do try their hardest, but i don’t think they understand fully, even though i’ve explained so many times what my meltdowns are. They are calm at the beginning (first 5 minutes) but then lose their patience with me and get upset themselves (which i understand in a way as it’s a complicated thing) but i’ve tried to explain they need to stay calm and reassure me but they can’t seem to ever keep calm through a whole meltdown, to the point i’m now very nervous of meltdowns as i’m scared of upsetting them, and the whole situation being more dramatic then it has to be. Does anyone either relate to this, have and ideas or tips?
thank you in advance
My husband can't cope with my meltdowns at all, which is very difficult for us both. He has schizo-affective disorder, it seems to me that this is why he seems utterly unable to not only help, but also even unable to avoid actually making them worse. The only way we have found is for him to go away and let me calm down by myself.
Fortunately my meltdowns have not been in dangerous places where I have needed help, I do worry how it might be if that ever happened, it scares me that the person i am supposed to be able to rely on is unreliable, just as it scares me that I myself can be unreliable. It also makes me sad. But it is how he is and I do not know any way to help him, all i can try and do is try to avert the situation from getting worse when I feel one coming on. Which is not easy!!! (massive understatement!)
No not easy, I’m sorry that you have been made to feel heavier than is minimal, it does speak to your strength though..
I hope that you manage to find a safe-space to wait out meltdown every time you need to..
thank you, i’ve written out a meltdown plan today incase it happens again, and given it also to loved ones so they know. Hopefully that should help a little bit.
thanks you everyone for your help!
It really does mean a lot know there are others out there dealing with the same issues you are. It’s easy to someone feel isolated and stupid at times