Using our Universal Autistic Universal Super- Power for good.

What Universal Super Power I hear you ask? 

That's a manifestation of it... 

We are essentially Annoyiing People. Now I know that is a very aut-ist thing to say but it is I am sure the more enlightend reader will agree, an essential truth.

We are annoying to others.

Some people leave the forum they find this truth to be so manifest, often whilst denying it.

Fortunately for me during my half century of not so blisfull ignorance of my own autism I had manged to observe absorb adn cope with teh basic fact that most people find me annoying.

Some instantly, some over time.

SO how do I use my powers for good? 

Simples: When that phone rings and a gentleman with a strange accent and poor audio introduces himself as Ramesh, and apparenlty the Motior Insurance Bureau has notified him of my recent vehicle accident, I simply ask him: "Which one?".. At this point Romesh starts scrambling for information, so I press home my request for information, and he eventually manages to tempt me It's the one this year or last". I again ask him "Which one?" (Since I've now established that he is of course lying, for me it's permission to take the gloves off and get "creative" mysellf...) 

By taking up the time of these people, and delivering no rewards whatsoever, I reduce the probability that they will find a gullible victim.  

God made me annoying, but he gave me a whole lot of choice in how I use my gift....

  • 1. Missed that O/P entirely. BUT suspected something of that nature.

    2. My recommendation was primarily to get  second opinion, which I fleshed out with my own example.

    Overall if the O/P follows my advice they'd end up learning what they need to know,  through the process... 

  • And NO-ONE will be "reporting you to the police".

    In the original thread he mentioned having the police show up at his flat over what another player clearly thought was threatening behaviour, and was suspended effectively indefinitely over unspecified "false accusations". 

    I don't think he should be told to keep digging. 

    community.autism.org.uk/.../i-have-asperger-s-syndrome-therefore-i-m-not-allowed-to-play-netball

  • I'd get yourself some legal advice at this point.

    Tell your counsel the whole story and ONLY IF YOUR COUNSEL AGREES THAT YOU HAVE BEEN WRONGED get your seven day letter sorted out, and send it, then be ready to sue the crap out of them.

    If you run into delaying tactics, and need to send reminders, with the first reminder include your schedule of charges for further phone calls, producing reminder letters, etc. 

    Be remorselss about any deadlines you give, UTTERLY accurate, and on time.

    Don't get mad, get even.

    UNLESS you find out that you are wrong in everyone else's eyes, in which case you have had a learning experience. Before I make anyone else's life a misery, I always like to check with a few people if I am really being reasonable. But some people just need a few visits to court... It cost s about £100 to raise the paperwork, if you have some knowledge about how the law works and a suitable solicitor, you can force at least one ajournment, causiing them more loss in time and money, and generally drag em though a stressful (and if you make your case right) complicated process. 

    And NO-ONE will be "reporting you to the police".which as an autist you really, really, do not want those people in your life... 

  • I'm not sure a campaign of harassment against people who I believe already reported you to the police is using it for good. 

    It might be difficult but you need to draw a line under the whole situation and move on, because you're just proving them right at this point. 

  • I wish I could say that I was proficient at motorcycling and road-use, but that would not be true, because I’m terrible at both.

    But my attempts to learn weren’t a total waste, in my great discouragement, I learned to fundamental truths.
    Motorcycles don’t have a reverse-gear, very-useful to know before getting stuck at a T-junction facing down-hill, whilst obstructing a bus’s turning-circle.  
    And secondly, “when you are in the right-most lane at a round-about entrance, you don’t need to do a life-saver check!”, which my instructor implored most-vehemently.

    On second-thoughts, I think a may have the superpower that you mentioned, but for entirely different reasons..

  • I realized this morning I might already be doing this. The netball club that got me suspended from Netball Scotland for 5 years were offering a free top to new members who paid for 3 netball sessions when I joined them. (Probably so they could deliberately not give me one, in case their false accusations didn't work, so I'd know how unwelcome I was there.) Naturally, I've never received mine. So I've e-mailed and asked for it about 6 times now.

    I got an e-mail from Netball Scotland last week telling me that I wasn't going to get the free top and if I continue to contact the club , the club will contact the police and accuse me of harassment.

    I intend to keep asking for it until I get the free top or a refund of the money I paid for the netball sessions.

  • Genuine-conversation is the sales-person’s kryptonite..

  • In my last job I used my Annoyance Powers to do something that I personally consider using that power for good, and people on the receiving end probably considered using it for evil:

    I worked in a regulatory industry (I still do, just elsewhere) and every time anyone tried to fudge things a bit or do something dodgy I would point it out their 'mistake'- usually in writing. It didn't make me very popular at that company but I did have a reputation for integrity... and being extremely irritating. I felt that ethically I couldn't let things slide, and I also didn't really care if people I wouldn't choose to hang out with outside of work didn't like me, so I was quite happy to be the bad guy for it.

    Also, it's very funny to get someone absolutely fuming mad when they know they can't say why without owning up to being awful Joy

  • Here, in Northern Ireland, individuals would claim over ANYTHING. Of course, those closest to me would use that as an excuse to hold me prisoner; in my own home. The women my life, by and large, are the types who get paranoid over a few pounds here-and-there. Plus, their life revolves around TV and the News.

    I just put the phone down, myself.

  • Lol good for you I Sperg. 

    I've done this as well. Usually it's about a "car crash" I was in recently so I spend a good amount of time saying about the accident, the trauma it's caused me and then they want to take my details by which point we've been talking a while. And then I go "Oh wait I just remembered I don't have a car because I can't drive". 

    Then comes a moment of silence which I assume is shock on their end and then they hang up.

    As you said, the time they spent talking to me means they can't trick some poor person. And it's good fun for me as well. :d 

  • As a kid, I used my bicycle and as a young man my motorcycle to make sure I was always able to go and see people.

    That way I could control the amount of exposure they had to be, and take on the aspect of a "social butterfly".

    I found early on that I got the best out of people if I turned up out of the blue. I was either a welcome visitor, or could quickly go elsewhere. 

  • God made me annoying, but he gave me a whole lot of choice in how I use my gift....

    This made me laugh I Sperg! 

    I am probably also very annoying, but I only spend short periods of time with people. I am probably okay in small doses but you don't want to spend a very long time with me.