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I imagine she’ll want to do the full traditional thing. If you’ve spent years feeling cut off from female norms you’re probably going to want to do them all. Bridal showers, cheeky hen nights, endless dress shoping, elaborate fancy dresses tried on one after the other. Absurd amounts of time spent with hairdressers and make up artists.

Thanks Leaves xx

Aww what a lovely thread. Huge congratulations for you guys.

Ah that's understandable, I have sensory stuff too and will be a bridesperson at my friends wedding and she's basically said wear whatever looks fancy but comfortable and is in the same colours as the theme (I think she's going for dark green and gold atm).
Sounds like you have plenty time to plan yet so loads of fun looking at the options to look forward to.

Thanks shortstuff - I'm sorry about the relationship breaking down, but really glad that you are both still good friends though xx

Thanks I Sperg - she had asked me out before (as male), but it was kind of not working, but then when she started properly opening up to me, I fell in love with her for this very reason - I'm Bi myself, but she is definitely my soul mate and both of us know each other like the backs of our hands, but this time I felt as I broke us up (hadn't realised how much she loved me), it was down to me to get us back on track again.

It's strange as I've never asked anyone out before and it's the first time I have ever had the courage to actually propose to anyone.

We are very happy though and it's definitely been a little shining light for my fiancée as for the past few months, a lot of her friends dropped her when she started coming out - however, all my friend and family are perfectly fine with her coming out - so it now definitely feels like we are on the right track now xx

Thanks RockChick xx

I've already planned mine - bath, hot chocolate, good film and bed lol. My fiancée can do what she wants to do, but as long as she is waiting for me in the registry office/or hotel (not church as neither of us are christian/catholic) I don't mind what she wants to do xx

Probably will both have dresses, but for me it does depend on how it looks/feels on me as I hate having my back and shoulders uncovered (don't mind short sleeves). 
Not happening for a long time yet as my fiancée has to go through the 'change' first and will need a lot of support going through that - but when it does come to that time then I'm sure we will work it out xx

Good for you :). Same couldn't be said when I asked my trans best friend out; the relationship lasted a week and then she said she saw me more like a sister. I'm poly now. We're still friends obvs.

It is lovely to read of people finding happiness.

Congratulations on the bold proposal, and double on the way it was accepted.

Aww congratulations! I'm happy for you :)

True, it depends very much on the temperament of the bride. I mean the entire thing is this big show that as much catwalk as anything else. Otherwise you could just all turn up in jeans and t shirts. A lot of brides tend to want things like symmetry which is awkward if only one or two are wearing outfits different than everything else.

Lol I guess the real hot potato is joint or separate hen nights? If your friends are going to drag you to a strip club / chipendales do you really want your other half there lol.

I dunno sounds like a lot of fun if you ask me, as for brides people (two brides so... nomenclature check may be required.) It could be as easy as "here's the options, pick whichever you want to wear of this style rage as long as it's in these colours". I mean there's no rules a wedding has to be a certain way. Lots of folks make it their own to whatever suits them all the time.

It's a mine field tbh. If you go for matching dresses then there will be endless arguments over which style which bride prefers. Non matching dresses and it might become a competition to see which bride can outdo the other. They could agree to each pick each others dress ... then it depends very much on the temperament of both parties ... if one is sufficiently saucy and mischievous enough the other might end up wearing a dress with about the same coverage as dental floss ... although that could make for an entertaining wedding.

Then there are bridesmaids / groomsmen. Will the bridesmaids all wear the same style? Two styles for the 2 brides? Will they both walk down the aisle and both have a set of bridesmaids? Will the groomsmen walk with the bridesmaids? Or will they just make their male friends wear dresses as bridesmaids if they want to be part of it all? So many choices you normally wouldn't worry about.

Oooh are you both gonna have dresses then? Or do you relish the idea of a suit for yourself? I dunno why I forgot to ask, but now my imagination is lit up also thinking of all the cool combos you could have too if you wanted.

Thanks Shardovan xx

Thanks NAS85156 xx

Congrats to you both - lovely news to read :-)

Congratulations