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I Sperg said:

That's my whole beef, I don't toss handgrenades.

(I toss snap-it's at best).

Some people hereabouts reacted as if I did  AND IT'S STILL GOING ON.

The thing is that people can still cause offence without meaning to.  Sometimes we say things without realising the full implications of them, and it can cause hurt to others even if that wasn't our intention.  When that happens, it's best to listen to the person who's been hurt and accept their feelings are real and based on cumulative experiences. I understand that you feel like you're being silenced, and as an autistic person I know just how triggering that can be.  But when we learn that what we've said has upset someone, perhaps it's best to try not to repeat the offence out of respect for those with different circumstances and vulnerabilities.

The truth can take a bit of questioning, the lie not so much..

I don't like counting things! And some of mine have gone off the end so it's hard to count them. And I ought to be doing my Hebrew homework...

But I have more than 122 though!

I deliberately get extra RAM for my computer because I know I have this bad habit, I've been trying to cure it for years.

....it's more of a distractionary tactic....."Come on kids, lets all manually count our tabs rather than worrying about other things right now."

Is it a contest? Is there a way to count them without having to manually count them myself?

....In that case, just to twist the knife.....that was only on one of my (two) open browser platforms?!

I will explain and brag further in the back room.

Thank you for increasing my feelings of envy Number. 

One Action (to distract me and to alleviate a spike of prophetic anxiety).........

I have just been able to open 122 tabs on my rig without a crash or complaint.

One thought......

I do pray that this thread does not become Groundhog day !

Two thoughts...

1) I hope your account does not get removed.

2) I am envious that you're able to have so many tabs open. 

I saw the pronouns thread too, I didn’t report you, but I can understand why someone might have. The important point I think is that we are not in the Twitter world of free speech absolutism and you were expressing views and stirring others likewise which are not up for debate. It is not about, as you clearly said “feelings”, but human rights. This encapsulates it I think: Trans women are women in the same way as black people are people, identities which are not up for discussion. I’m sure you wouldn’t want your autism denied or questioned either. 

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BillyC87 said:

I suspect there are a lot of autistic people who feel the same as me as speaking our minds and accidentaly offending people is a common autistic trait

All my life Billy, all my life.  I just don't understand why people take words and opinions so personally if they are delivered within a context that is demonstrably NOT deliberately or overtly intended to offend.  I fear that shutting down discussions may prove our undoing in the long run - history seems to support this.

I Sperg said:

Some people get really insistent on their point of view being the only one that matters.

Keep in mind that do due to abusively induced trauma (much like getting punched to the eyes and then the cheeks and eyelids swelling up) the receptive capacities of the body-mind relationship can end up getting obstructed by the protective capacities, and the projective capacities can further corrupt matters with imagined speculations that have little or no actual correlation with events as they actually are ~ but more events that have been repeatedly the case for those having experienced them, which traumatically leads to ‘black and white’ / ‘all or nothing’ conceptualisation ~ where a person or a group of people imagine themselves as being entirely right, whilst another person or group of people is conversely imagined as being entirely wrong.

Hence people end up in effect as if arguing that a cuboid block only has a square or rectangle shaped side ~ as being it’s entire surface area, rather than as having two square and four rectangle shaped sides as being in unity a single object.

I Sperg said:

We will pick up the "downvotes" but the way it's being done here does not a learning experience offer!  

Perhaps reconsider that experiences of the absolute and the infinite have for their finite embodiments purpose and as such meaning ~ much in character like rough rocks become naturally over the ages smooth pebbles, and through mastery rough diamonds can be much sooner ground and polished to become multifaceted diamonds ~ with multitude reflective surfaces being equally relevant as beautifully unified refractive integrities.

Billy87 said:

I suspect there are a lot of autistic people who feel the same as me as speaking our minds and accidentaly offending people is a common autistic trait

All my life Billy, all my life.  I just don't understand why people take words and opinions so personally if they are delivered within a context that is demonstrably NOT deliberately or overtly intended to offend.  I fear that shutting down discussions may prove our undoing in the long run - history seems to support this.

I Sperg I certainly hope you dont leave. You are one of the people I most enjoy reading on here and I have had some very interesting and stimulating conversations with you myself

I get that this is a safe space for people but at the same time one of the things I suffer the most anxiety about is getting in trouble or upsetting people for saying the wrong thing, particularly these days when it seems so easy to say the wrong thing and the rules of what is ok to say change constantly. Knowing you can be deleted for that certainly makes it feel like slightly less of a safe space for me and causes me anxiety about what I might say. I suspect there are a lot of autistic people who feel the same as me as speaking our minds and accidentaly offending people is a common autistic trait

It is ridiculous that you can be threatened with expulsion without being told what you are supposed to have done

OK - so this is good.  Knowledge is power, in all directions.

Like the old silhouette cards used in WW2 to allow the homeguard to identify safe aircraft and enemy aircraft, I'll compile a crib sheet for you of what I believe are UFO's  [Undisclosed Factors of Offence.]

Like you, I am prepared to discuss any subject with anyone.  I can detach myself from emotive feelings to simply explore the opinions and perspectives of others.  I have learnt that this is extremely rare.  I have learnt that some topics and opinions simply cannot be tolerated in public spaces  - irrespective of what your own personal opinion might be on that particular topic ie. the problem isn't what you say on the topic, it's the fact that you have the temerity (in most peoples eyes) to even raise that topic.

I will ready my pigeon and grab my parchment and quill.  Leave the back window open and keep those beloved cats in the front room.  I'll dispatch my beauty with relevant code strapped to her leg shortly.

Godspeed.

You can get these states of affairs if it gets more official or even serious:

https://www.npaa.org.uk/alert-card-schemes/

And autism lanyard holders etcetera ~ including badges and whatnot:

https://www.etsy.com/uk/search?q=autism%20lanyard%20holders

Sorry for not replying earlier, I bought my badge from EBay, it just lights up with the glass being convex, the badge has sold out, this is the link to the matching key ring from the same supplier, I’m a diva and bought both, maybe send a message to see if it becomes back in stock.

www.ebay.co.uk/.../324426425755

That's my whole beef, I don't toss handgrenades.

(I toss snap-it's at best).

Some people hereabouts reacted as if I did  AND IT'S STILL GOING ON.