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I Sperg

Every day for about 4 days now, every time I refresh my screen or move about the site, I get reminded that some body hated me so much that they asked for my very existence here to be obliterated.  

*section removed on advice from wise friend*

Everyday for about four days now, I've been made to wonder, do I really "fit in" here?

I wonder if it happened to any of the other "deleted users"?

It's been suggested by one kind member that I am not slated to join that group.

Yet isn't endless fecking rejection, an integral part of the Autism experience?

For me, not knowing why my account was flagged as "Inappropriate" makes the given opportunity to "respond" somewhat 1950's soviet in it's aspect, or maybe vaguely reminds one of the 1960's series "the prisoner". Certainly not useful.

BUT every day now until the 4th apparently, I get to wonder if I should be reaching out to those in my "friends" list who really do seem "friendly" and give them my email address in a P.M...

And if you click on that litlle yellow thing you get:

I've just noticed the tiny word "abuse". At least Ii know what I am being "judged" for now...

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  • I certainly hope you dont leave. You are one of the people I most enjoy reading on here and I have had some very interesting and stimulating conversations with you myself

    I get that this is a safe space for people but at the same time one of the things I suffer the most anxiety about is getting in trouble or upsetting people for saying the wrong thing, particularly these days when it seems so easy to say the wrong thing and the rules of what is ok to say change constantly. Knowing you can be deleted for that certainly makes it feel like slightly less of a safe space for me and causes me anxiety about what I might say. I suspect there are a lot of autistic people who feel the same as me as speaking our minds and accidentaly offending people is a common autistic trait

    It is ridiculous that you can be threatened with expulsion without being told what you are supposed to have done

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    Billy87 said:
    I suspect there are a lot of autistic people who feel the same as me as speaking our minds and accidentaly offending people is a common autistic trait

    All my life Billy, all my life.  I just don't understand why people take words and opinions so personally if they are delivered within a context that is demonstrably NOT deliberately or overtly intended to offend.  I fear that shutting down discussions may prove our undoing in the long run - history seems to support this.

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    Unknown said:
    BillyC87 said:
    I suspect there are a lot of autistic people who feel the same as me as speaking our minds and accidentaly offending people is a common autistic trait

    All my life Billy, all my life.  I just don't understand why people take words and opinions so personally if they are delivered within a context that is demonstrably NOT deliberately or overtly intended to offend.  I fear that shutting down discussions may prove our undoing in the long run - history seems to support this.

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    Unknown said:
    BillyC87 said:
    I suspect there are a lot of autistic people who feel the same as me as speaking our minds and accidentaly offending people is a common autistic trait

    All my life Billy, all my life.  I just don't understand why people take words and opinions so personally if they are delivered within a context that is demonstrably NOT deliberately or overtly intended to offend.  I fear that shutting down discussions may prove our undoing in the long run - history seems to support this.

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