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I Sperg

Every day for about 4 days now, every time I refresh my screen or move about the site, I get reminded that some body hated me so much that they asked for my very existence here to be obliterated.  

*section removed on advice from wise friend*

Everyday for about four days now, I've been made to wonder, do I really "fit in" here?

I wonder if it happened to any of the other "deleted users"?

It's been suggested by one kind member that I am not slated to join that group.

Yet isn't endless fecking rejection, an integral part of the Autism experience?

For me, not knowing why my account was flagged as "Inappropriate" makes the given opportunity to "respond" somewhat 1950's soviet in it's aspect, or maybe vaguely reminds one of the 1960's series "the prisoner". Certainly not useful.

BUT every day now until the 4th apparently, I get to wonder if I should be reaching out to those in my "friends" list who really do seem "friendly" and give them my email address in a P.M...

And if you click on that litlle yellow thing you get:

I've just noticed the tiny word "abuse". At least Ii know what I am being "judged" for now...

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  • "Carry On - Up the Sperg"........That is what this film should be called?

    I'm not sure if you bring out the best in me, or the worst in me - but you definitely conjurer something?!

    For this reason alone, (and for reasons of global warming) - I would happily start a "save the Sperg" campaign if required.

    You have an excellent energy about you in my opinion (probably cold fusion.)

    I like the fact that you are happy to discuss anything.  I have only ever seen you conduct yourself in a civilised and humorous manner in this place, albeit with an understandable flash of steel and/or frustrated air at times.

    Your choice of subject matter is often observational and opportunistic in nature and this is not kowtowed by majority conventions of "normality" and nor should it be (in my opinion) - most especially not in this place, with 'your' people.  I have only ever seen you be polite to others on these pages even when you have been subjected to dubious, unwarranted or misplaced scrutiny.

    Your delivery is obliquely bombastic which most people here find fun and entertaining - but I can also understand how the casual observer may misunderstand your motives and messaging on occasion.

    I don't like seeing my friends tossing around hand grenades in public spaces, even if no harm is ever intended.  Please stay on the "ever-so-slightly-safer" side of the EXTREMELY thin ** line.  

    **[INSERT YOUR COLOUR OF CHOICE HERE]

    With respect and some man love (sounds dubious, but you know what I mean.)

  • in reply to Deleted User

    That's my whole beef, I don't toss handgrenades.

    (I toss snap-it's at best).

    Some people hereabouts reacted as if I did  AND IT'S STILL GOING ON.

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  • in reply to I Sperg
    I Sperg said:

    That's my whole beef, I don't toss handgrenades.

    (I toss snap-it's at best).

    Some people hereabouts reacted as if I did  AND IT'S STILL GOING ON.

    The thing is that people can still cause offence without meaning to.  Sometimes we say things without realising the full implications of them, and it can cause hurt to others even if that wasn't our intention.  When that happens, it's best to listen to the person who's been hurt and accept their feelings are real and based on cumulative experiences. I understand that you feel like you're being silenced, and as an autistic person I know just how triggering that can be.  But when we learn that what we've said has upset someone, perhaps it's best to try not to repeat the offence out of respect for those with different circumstances and vulnerabilities.

  • in reply to I Sperg

    OK - so this is good.  Knowledge is power, in all directions.

    Like the old silhouette cards used in WW2 to allow the homeguard to identify safe aircraft and enemy aircraft, I'll compile a crib sheet for you of what I believe are UFO's  [Undisclosed Factors of Offence.]

    Like you, I am prepared to discuss any subject with anyone.  I can detach myself from emotive feelings to simply explore the opinions and perspectives of others.  I have learnt that this is extremely rare.  I have learnt that some topics and opinions simply cannot be tolerated in public spaces  - irrespective of what your own personal opinion might be on that particular topic ie. the problem isn't what you say on the topic, it's the fact that you have the temerity (in most peoples eyes) to even raise that topic.

    I will ready my pigeon and grab my parchment and quill.  Leave the back window open and keep those beloved cats in the front room.  I'll dispatch my beauty with relevant code strapped to her leg shortly.

    Godspeed.