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Loss of Confidant and routine

Golf23

So I have in the space of two days gone from having someone who I confided in, on a daily basis, too having nothing.

I don't understand why, or if it was something I did or said!

It was part of a routine I got into to speak to them on a daily basis in the evening and we would talk for about 2 hours and I felt comfortable with them, they would help with any stresses I had and I would in return help them with any issues they were having.

I am a bit lost and spent the time yesterday staring at the ceiling not knowing what to do 

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  • It can be a horrible situation to find oneself in and confusing for autistic people like ourselves. If we have grown accustomed to having someone in our life that we feel we can regularly confide in, and then it suddenly grinds to a halt without any warning, it can automatically cause us to question if we are somehow at fault. It's a situation I have found myself in on numerous occasions, so I can relate.

  • in reply to Sporadic Sparkly

    I don't know what to do, I have tried taking my mind off of it but it keeps coming back, like a boomerang.

  • in reply to Golf23

    Have you tried contacting the other person and asking if you have unintentionally said something that has upset/offended them?

    I understand that boomerang. Quite often when something is troubling me, I will try to engage in activities to distract my thoughts, but it's like the thing that is troubling me is always there lurking in my mind until it's resolved.

  • in reply to Sporadic Sparkly

    Story of my life.

    But, alas, their loss.

    I used to devour online buddy-lists. Now I have a select few friends, and feel more connected.

  • in reply to Golf23

    If they don't, then I think it may be a matter of having to put them in your past.

    A good many years ago I had a friend from my school days that I had lost touch with. One day, she suddenly contacted me out of the blue. We rekindled our friendship and were close friends for a good couple of years. We kept in touch several times a week via e-mail, and would occasionally meet up. Then, without any warning whatsoever, she just vanished from my life. No explanation whatsoever. I made several attempts to contact her (e-mails, letters, birthday/Christmas cards, etc), but received no response back. Eventually, I stopped trying. This was about 10 years ago, and I've heard absolutely nothing from her since.

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  • in reply to Golf23

    If they don't, then I think it may be a matter of having to put them in your past.

    A good many years ago I had a friend from my school days that I had lost touch with. One day, she suddenly contacted me out of the blue. We rekindled our friendship and were close friends for a good couple of years. We kept in touch several times a week via e-mail, and would occasionally meet up. Then, without any warning whatsoever, she just vanished from my life. No explanation whatsoever. I made several attempts to contact her (e-mails, letters, birthday/Christmas cards, etc), but received no response back. Eventually, I stopped trying. This was about 10 years ago, and I've heard absolutely nothing from her since.

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