Loss of Confidant and routine

It can be a horrible situation to find oneself in and confusing for autistic people like ourselves. If we have grown accustomed to having someone in our life that we feel we can regularly confide in, and then it suddenly grinds to a halt without any warning, it can automatically cause us to question if we are somehow at fault. It's a situation I have found myself in on numerous occasions, so I can relate.

I don't know what to do, I have tried taking my mind off of it but it keeps coming back, like a boomerang.

Have you tried contacting the other person and asking if you have unintentionally said something that has upset/offended them?

I understand that boomerang. Quite often when something is troubling me, I will try to engage in activities to distract my thoughts, but it's like the thing that is troubling me is always there lurking in my mind until it's resolved.

Have you tried contacting the other person and asking if you have unintentionally said something that has upset/offended them?

I understand that boomerang. Quite often when something is troubling me, I will try to engage in activities to distract my thoughts, but it's like the thing that is troubling me is always there lurking in my mind until it's resolved.

Story of my life.

But, alas, their loss.

I used to devour online buddy-lists. Now I have a select few friends, and feel more connected.

If they don't, then I think it may be a matter of having to put them in your past.

A good many years ago I had a friend from my school days that I had lost touch with. One day, she suddenly contacted me out of the blue. We rekindled our friendship and were close friends for a good couple of years. We kept in touch several times a week via e-mail, and would occasionally meet up. Then, without any warning whatsoever, she just vanished from my life. No explanation whatsoever. I made several attempts to contact her (e-mails, letters, birthday/Christmas cards, etc), but received no response back. Eventually, I stopped trying. This was about 10 years ago, and I've heard absolutely nothing from her since.

And if they don't?

It could be that something unexpected has happened in their life that they need to devote their time and attention to.

As hard as it may be, my advice would be to give it a few days and wait to see if they resume contact, and to try not to worry about it too much in the meantime. Yes, I know, this is something that is probably easier said than done.

They won't talk to me, I have tried, but they just won't respond.