AS partner cheating

Relationships are about intimacy and connexion. Bonds of any sort shared and kept secret, classify as affairs. I can't trust someone to have my best interest who's heart is with another or make informed decisions when kept in the dark. If I use the analogy of money, it can make more sense. If I'm investing into a different bank and slowly withdrawing from the one I was with, it's hard evidence to see where my loyalty lies. 

Regardless of what sort of issues or help is needed, regardless of the point he's at in his journey, if he was willing to chose someone over you and keep that hidden, then he's probably not worth your return investment, sadly. The hard part here can be counting the time invested as a loss or the vision of a future as void. But honestly, I would cut all ties, put time and distance between you, delete his number and see if life is greener without him? Maybe after a few years he sorts himself out and decides he wants to earn back your trust. Maybe not. But I'd save the drama for a therapist and hit delete. 

Not all relationships are about intimacy. Platonic friendships aren't usually intimate. If the guy was seeing another man, purely as a friend, maybe because he shares an interest that his wife doesn't like our understand, would you say he was cheating then? I agree that one can cheat romantically, without sex being involved, but if neither are involved, they're just friends! It feels to me like there's far more to this than has been shared here. The OP could well be at fault, we just don't know. So advising she leave him is a bit extreme. 

JustMe Here's the best analogy for the reply: If you want to find the centre, swing the pendulum all the way to one side. From the information in the post, there's too much to unpack, including how women compete and breaking trust, but it all leads to the exit (even if that turns into a do-over). Women have ended up compromised from things their male partners have kept hidden with other men - secrets and exclusions do not a marriage make. Add, I wouldn't drop a clinical term like narcissist but on a rare occasion. However, my personal response isn't always advice. Just a new perspective. 

JustMe Here's the best analogy for the reply: If you want to find the centre, swing the pendulum all the way to one side. From the information in the post, there's too much to unpack, including how women compete and breaking trust, but it all leads to the exit (even if that turns into a do-over). Women have ended up compromised from things their male partners have kept hidden with other men - secrets and exclusions do not a marriage make. Add, I wouldn't drop a clinical term like narcissist but on a rare occasion. However, my personal response isn't always advice. Just a new perspective. 

Ah. Well, my apologies. I had thought you read the initial post re: 'narcissistic traits' :) 

I'm not sure what you're confused about. If it's the analogy, I can explain if you're interested. I've tried to keep my response tailored to this particular post.

In my opinion and in my mid 40's, I've been through enough relationships and have had friends, family members and wise enough grandparents, etc., to know when an investment isn't equal, respect is not being afforded and trust has been well beyond broken. There are enough 'Red Flags' in that initial post in my opinion, to make an exit strategy. Humans aren't for using and disposing of. Kindness and Respect toward the one person we build a life with should be base. Everything else is icing on the cake! 

Sorry, but your response makes no sense to me. Also, who mentioned narcissist? I certainly didn't.