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How to approach undiagnosed partner with Asperger traits

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Hi everyone, 

I've been having serious relationship issues with my partner for the last few years now. To the point where we are both pretty depressed. When describing my partner to my therapist, she suggested he may have Aspergers. I looked it up and there is a lot of overlap with the traits described. It all seems so obvious now. I feel very lonely in our relationship, but want to give it one last shot for our daughters sake. 

What advice would you give as to how to tackle this topic with my partner? I'm worried he will flip out, get very offended and I can even conceive that he will admit to it (he is generally very self-aware).

What would you say the benefit of me bringing it up would be?

At the moment I'm just trying to make things as bearable as possible so don't want to stoke a fire.

Thanks,

  • Have you tried joint relationship therapy? You don’t necessarily have to bring up your suspicions of autism, have you spoken to him about the issues themselves? Autism affects everyone differently you need to know what his specific struggles are really

  • What traits are you seeing?      How do you describe his actions?      What do you understand about Asperger's?

    You don't need to tackle it head on - you just need to understand his world and see how easily you can make is less stressful and more fun.

  • This describes my relationship at this time, my partner is undiagnosed and really struggling and we are too.... I have tried and tried but cannot find any way forward 

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