Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi everyone,
I've been having serious relationship issues with my partner for the last few years now. To the point where we are both pretty depressed. When describing my partner to my therapist, she suggested he may have Aspergers. I looked it up and there is a lot of overlap with the traits described. It all seems so obvious now. I feel very lonely in our relationship, but want to give it one last shot for our daughters sake.
What advice would you give as to how to tackle this topic with my partner? I'm worried he will flip out, get very offended and I can even conceive that he will admit to it (he is generally very self-aware).
What would you say the benefit of me bringing it up would be?
At the moment I'm just trying to make things as bearable as possible so don't want to stoke a fire.
Thanks,
What traits are you seeing? How do you describe his actions? What do you understand about Asperger's?
You don't need to tackle it head on - you just need to understand his world and see how easily you can make is less stressful and more fun.
The traits are things like not liking people in general, highly intelligent, obsession with things being 'right', hates change in routine, obsessions around hygiene, things being in done in a particular way, lack of friendship in the relationship i.e. doesn't follow up on things that are going on in my life, doesn't ask if I would like a glass water if he gets some, not recognising what my basic needs are etc. Honestly no I don't know a lot about Aspergers, Iread some article but not read whole books. If you have any recommendations please let me know.