Hi, my husband, who I have been with for 11 years now has been in touch with doctors about being referred for a assessment for Autism.
Basically I'm trying to understand things from my husbands point of view. We have had a rough time, we are both having counselling for our separate issues, I have not been very patient and understanding with my with husband and have got angry and annoyed with him quite easily and not been understanding due to the fact I was previously in a physically abusive relationship for 13 years, I have learned how to try and keep calm and think before I open my mouth ( not always successful, but loads better than I was.
Anyway one of the big issues we have is sex and my husband struggling to talk about it. I have a very high sex drive and his is very low. I always seem to come onto him and he never comes onto me, he likes to plan when we will do it, which I do go along with but not really happy about this as more often than not I will be getting excited thinking we are going to have sex and then he has changed his mind and we don't have sex. I would like it to be spontaneous and him to come onto me, but that never happens, I know before he said he was worried that he would come onto me and maybe I might not want to have sex, I said I'm always up for sex and in the very rare chance I'm not then I would tell him.
I just wondered if anyone could give us and ideas/suggestions on how to work through this issue.
