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My 9 year old son has just been diagnosed and could really do with some friends

Stacey

Hi everyone 

I've just joined after my sons recent diagnosis. 

I could really do with some advice.

My son is 9 and has become very isolated,  he only had a few friends but they no longer bother with him.

He is no longer attending mainstream school, im currently waiting for his educational health care plan to be done so we can get him into a more specialist school.

In the meantime he has become so sad, he plays on both xbox and ps4 but no longer has any online friends Cry

I'm trying to help get him some online friends, does anyone know of anything?

Or are there anyone who has a child who would like to add him on xbox or ps4, he could really do with some friends. 

Makes me so sad to see him so sad!

Please help!

Stacey 

  • in reply to NAS71674

    Do you know what u are exactly right! Cayden only had a very small group of friends and was extremely loyal to each one, but they all turnt their back on him and he was absolutely devastated.  He needs good friends around him so thankyou I totally agree

  • in reply to Stacey

    If that's the case make sure any friends he does get are worth having. Be a guiding force for him behind the scenes to make sure that happens.  I will tell you this when alot of autistic people make friends they are fiercely loyal and superb friends but if they get let down by the other person its devastating even more so than in normal circumstances. He will enrich other deserving peoples lives as they will his so make sure they are worth having for him.  

  • in reply to Dean

    Hi Dean

    I've been listening to him online laughing and having so much fun! They seem to be getting on really well, thankyou so much Blushhope Aston is enjoying himself too! I hope u find the right school for Aston and thankyou once again Slight smile

  • in reply to Stacey

    Hi Stacey 

    Just been watching Aston play fortnite, cayden has now two other new friends, two of astons sent him requests and the 4 of them are happily playing. Hope this is a start of something special. Aston needs it and sounds as cayden does.

  • in reply to NAS71674

    Hi 

    I know because we have spoke about it, he tends to struggle face to face friendships but finds it easier to have online friends. 

    You are right though his anxiety makes him very sad it must be very hard.

    That's why I make sure I'm there to support him every day 

  • How do you know he wants to make any friends? He might be sad if hes also got depression and anxiety like alot of us do. I am sad every day 

  • in reply to Dean

    Hi Dean

    Cayden has sent Aston a invite on fortnite 

  • in reply to Stacey

    Hi Stacey,

    Aston sent cayden a request and also received his request. Saved caydens name, we can not find it. Could cayden send another hopefully it works this time.

    Fingers crossedFingers crossed

    Dean

  • in reply to Leah

    Hi Leah

    Thanks so much for your message,  I have sent you a message Blush

  • in reply to Dean

    Hi Dean,

    Thanks so much! Cayden will accept! He isn't home yet but will go on later and accept the request,  thanks so much Blush

  • in reply to Stacey

    Hi astons gamet tag is Astonjai08 he will send Cayden a request.

    Dean

  • Hi,

    all i read is the title and I would more than appreciate to speak to him and make him feel less isolated. 

    Although the age gap is large, I would love to speak to humans who just seem so cool. 

    Let me know 

    You can private message me on here and I will give you my details 

  • in reply to Stacey

    Hi Stacey

    I will talk to Aston when he gets home and will give him Caydens gaming tag. Hopefully the become friends.

  • Oh gosh I'm really hoping it doesn't take too long for his ECHP. He hasn't been into his mainstream school for most of year 4, but the school just doesn't meet his needs.  I hope u find your son a good school that he feels comfortable in and gets the right support. 

    My son is called Cayden, he is online most days, his gamer tag is yt_cayden_live

    Be really nice if they could add eachother Slight smile

  • in reply to Stacey

    Hi

    It took absolutely ages to get the EHCP. Astons primary school was not much help at first, they just seemed to make out it was his fault for the way he was, once we got it they changed slightly only due to the fact that they now get an extra 4grand for Aston being there. In past years he had had a number of eye tests, hearing tests and visiting a number of other health professionals. Before we got his diagnosis we enquired about sending Aston to same high school as his sister, but I was not happy about  most of their answers. I am not willing now  to send him to mainstream secondary as would get picked on etc. Now that we got diagnosis we can look for a school that is more adapted for people like Aston. Sorry if it seems like I am babbling but we are now getting on with finding things out about autism and are ecstatic that wat he has been going thorough for his 9 years has now got a name. It's not changed him but has changed the way that we are as a family (for the better). What's your sons name, on and off fortinte and is he on it mosts nights. 

    Dean

  • Hi Dean

    We live in Bristol. My son has a ps4 and loves fortnite! Maybe they could add eachother?

    Do you mind me asking how long it took you to get his ECHP?

    We are waiting and desperate to get him into a more specialised school. 

    Stacey

  • What area you from, our 9 year-old son has just been given diagnosis of having autism. He is mad for his ps4 and loves playing fortnite and Minecraft. We have his EHCP and are now looking at schools other than mainstream schools.

    Dean