Noisy neighbour up talking ALL night, keeping me awake.

My neighbour, the woman upstairs, kept talking to a man (her boyfriend?) all night. I could hear his voice more than hers, and it was loud. They were arguing from 6pm until 5am in the morning. Some of it sounded quite disturbing. I get stressed when I hear arguments because I feel the conflict. I feel angry. She might be nocturnal but I need my sleep, and due to my anxiety, I need it even more. Without sleep, my anxiety goes through the roof. First there were noisy students outside my flat (I live near a Uni), then, after they disappeared at 1am, all I could hear was the arguing. I have heard this man before, and initially thought the noise was coming from outside the flat, right outside my window. But it actually comes from upstairs. I am extra sensitive to background noise when I am trying to sleep (I can't block it out), and I just feel b***** angry and upset.

  • I’m experiencing the same problems. My neighbours are students or 20+ and they disregard me thumping loudly for them to shut up, and are still talking. Today they started at 2am till 5 am.  I am so angry and hate them that I even started to pray for them to move out  and in the worst instances as of today for them to die. All done in anger though but still. Call me crazy but today I got so mad that I looked up instant death spells for them but couldn’t find any.   

  • I would call the police, you can report it and say you want to remain Anonymous. I’ve done that in the past.
    That would stop it. Hopefully.

    The other thing I do is put ear plugs in my ears the best ones I found for sleeping are the ones used for swimming they come in a pack of six. They are light blue.

    At first they feel sticky, I found if l use some hand sanitiser in my hands and roll them in it first, before putting them in my ears they’re no longer sticky. Or wash them warm soapy water first. They are very pliable and soft,  you squeeze them round and round like a sausage shape, and then put them into your ear, and press them, and they mould into the shape, just inside your ear. I can’t hardly hear anything at all, when I have them in, it’s certainly dampens noise right down.  I do still hear my calming alarm go off in the morning. 

  • I have exactly the same problem, I live in a room in a shared house and 2 of the people upstairs who are friends bring many people into the house once or twice a week, I dont know who they are so don't feel safe already but they are constantly going from room to room in the early hours of the morning, shouting, slamming doors and stomping up and down the stairs and going in and out of the building, and theres the smell of drugs. It took me over 6 months of complaining and the landlord threatening to kick him out because of loud music all the time so we are not exactly on good terms. I feel the same as you, trapped. I sit through it all night when it happens writing what I want to say to him but the next day I don't bother because I know they look at me and think of me as a nutjob and will probably make more noise if I complained. They dont understand that it affects me for the whole day as end up losing sleep. I have hyperacusis as well so live in a world of noise and especially low frequency noises from things banging. Other people just see it from their point of view - such as - I rent this room so what I do in the room is nobodys business, you can't stop me having friends in all night and talking.

  • Yep, many people are very inconsiderate. I have been trying to be very quiet in my new flat, sticking by the tenancy agreement to the letter. I don't play music after 11pm, and when I do, I play it very softly. I don't have visitors after 8pm at the very latest. I don't slam doors, but shut them very softly. I would never make noise in the middle of the night!

    I spoke to my support worker about this today, and she told me that, if it continues or becomes a regular theme, she will help me write a polite note telling the neighbour that her boyfriend's talking keeps me awake. Hopefully this won't happen again, and usually the neighbours are quiet. However, to miss a whole night is pretty horrible, and it has knock on effects during the day. For example, I had to cancel a work meeting because I kept on feeling like crying at the slightest thing, and felt more anxious than usual.

  • When I say constant talking through the night, I mean precisely that. And he is still talking now. It has been going on for hours!. It would be alright if the talking were only a couple of hours in the mid-morning or afternoon, but is constant. Just one constant male voice. I can't hear her voice - she is softly spoken. Just hear his voice. And with no sleep, the noise makes me even more stressed. I feel like hitting someone. I hate it. Absolutely hate it. The noise goes right through me. And this is why I sometimes hate people. They spoil my peace and quiet. Surely they know that noise carries?

  • Anyone got any advice? I feel livid. How dare they!. I am going to have to cancel a work commitment because I feel like *** - no sleep, have a headache, feel tearful, and my anxiety levels are high. Constant noise, talking, a deep male voice. He does not live upstairs, so I presume he is her boyfriend.

    I can't block out background noise when I sleep. I am a light sleeper, and am awakened just by someone coughing. What can I do? I grew up in a quiet area so am not used to constant night-time noise, which, in truth, no-one should have to put up with. I HATE it. Sorry, but am having to vent my frustrations. I actually feel visceral anger towards the man upstairs, for it is he who has destroyed my beauty sleep, and wrecked my day to boot. I am a good neighbour. I am quiet at night and hit the pillow at 11pm. If my Dad stays over, I ensure we don't speak aftter 11pm - good neighbourly conduct. I obey the rules, why can't they?