Published on 12, July, 2020
I've been in one relationship that lasted 8 months, during which I didn't know I was autistic
Throughout the whole thing I cared about him but I always just felt awkward, and acted awkward. I never really had anything to say, we kind of just sat in silence most of the time watching tv or a movie. I can't make conversation and that is a huge part of a relationship, talking.
I don't think I'll ever be able to have a proper, successful relationship because I'm too awkward and never have much to say, which probably makes the whole thing weird. I loved being in a relationship and really want intimacy, I just don't think I can keep a bond with someone for long because I ruin it with how weird I am. I think I'll end up lonely forever, which I really don't want.
What can I do to stop ruining all my relationships by being awkward and quiet? I don't want to be alone
this is a tough one, was u ex autistic as well ?
but he must have seen something in u because 8 months is quite long so u r loveable. the issue is having conversations .
can u get him back ?
I think that's what ruined it, the conversations. it was my fault and I think I'll always be the problem in all my relationships unless I magically fix it
quite a hard think to fix --- u would need to learn how to conduct conversations.
have u tried anything in the past ?
u are fine at conversation see u later
Oh yeah I'll add more to my bio now, thank you
I think also I might try making online friends? Even if I don't meet them irl it should help me with conversation skills and make me feel a bit less lonely
u just to fine a man who has similar interests or political views so you can talk about thise things OR sometimes oppostes attract each other which has always interested biologists.
are you working ? do u like art, music, the color pink ?
put these details into your bio so more peple here will talk to you. Talking is all about practise and how to play up to egos.
if u meet a man u like and u cant think of anything to say just keep saying
"thats interesting"
"your great" " I like u " "your funny"
also see if you can find Active Listening tutorials ---- i was trained by a Bot in Active listening !
That's a good idea, thank you
I also think I might just have to accept the fact that I won't ever be 'normal' in a relationship, however I also know that if I find the right person they will try to understand
u can have a conversation using text here pretty well u're not boring I can feel your character . So next time u meet a man u want arrange texting and IMing sessions between you even when sitting close by. How does that sound J ?