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Mirrors, haircuts, shaving and spectacles

Trainspotter

I don't like looking at myself in a mirror.

The person who looks back at me is a stranger to myself.  He seems remote, distant not like the person who is within me.

And together with this is 'what I look like'.  I don't have to look at myself, so in a way I am not bothered as to what I look like.  I have just had to have a new pair of spectacles as my previous ones were getting more and more difficult to see through, and were held together with tape with the lenses constantly dropping out.  But I didn't have to look at myself, so I was not concerned about this as it was the misfortune of others to see me.  I didn't see myself.

I have today had my haircut for the first time in a year.  It was getting very long, and had begun to irritate me by blowing over my face and eyes.  But I didn't have to look at myself so I didn't bother that it must have looked very untidy.  It has now gone from 'hippy 1960's' to 'respectable'.  But I still don't have to look at myself.

I don't like it when my facial hair gets too long.  But I don't like shaving either.  I won't use a mirror when shaving.  My skin is very sensitive to a razor blade and I always cut myself so it has to be an electric razor.  So I go from looking like I 'need a shave' to shaved look.  But once again, I don't look at myself.  The only driving force for it is that I begin to feel uncomfortable as I don't like the feel of my facial hair.

I must say that I do like the 'feeling' when I have just had my hair cut, and am clean shaved.  But that isn't the motivation.  The motivation is purely my hair on my head or face getting so long as to feel uncomfortable.  And in the case of spectacles reaching the end of their natural life.  And I still won't look in a mirror!

I would be interested to know if this is just peculiar to me, or whether others have similar motivations.

  • We have a mirror in the bathroom but that's it. I hate mirrors, don't want to see myself ever lol. 

  • The only mirror in my house is one for the benefit of guests in the back bedroom.  

    Who needs to see themselves to know who they are lol

  • in reply to $parentForumReply.Author.DisplayName

    I don't like my appearance either, but I try to fight my complexes. In general, I think that a person should accept and love themselves. Love for yourself makes it possible to feel more confident, enjoy life and moments. I try to take care of myself, visit cosmetologists and spas, do manicures. I also recently started a course on laser hair removal as body hair was one of the biggest complexes. I shaved every single day, and my skin was never smooth anyway. I consulted with my beauty therapist, and we decided it would be best to try laser hair removal. I went to [removed by mod], and I was very happy with the results. The professionals helped me to get rid of another complex.

  • Honey , why do you talk about yourself like that?

  • Do you think its just uncomfortable or body dysmorphia, BDD. I only ask as my mother and a couple of friends are quite insistent that I have this. Hate the way you look, tick, hate my hair, tick hate being short, tick, wont wear glasses unless I absolutely have to, which is basically whenever I need to read but other than that they are off.

    I had long hair and it was mousy brown up until Friday, but like you thought sod it had the lot cut off and stuck a red dye on it. Hated the haircut bit mind but mainly because the hairdresser just kept firing inane questions at me.

    only thing I can't relate to is the hairy face although sometimes I wish it was so that I could hide behind it.

    Summer is fab because then the sunnies can come out and I can hide behind them.

    people get sick of me constantly complaining how ugly I am and the usual your not your attractive you have a nice figure but it doesn't stop the devil on my shoulder saying' You are minging!

  • I can just about tolerate looking at myself in the mirror, but I hate seeing photos of myself, or having them taken - as for work IDs or passports.  Last year, though - after weeks of the usual comparisons and deliberations, and visiting different opticians to try and re-try countless pairs of frames - I found some that glasses that I'm completely happy with for the first time in years of wearing them (my eyes are the wrong shape for contacts, and I now need glasses - varifocals - all the time).  These frames are actually perfect for my face.  With my short hair, too (albeit grey!), I look a bit like Joe 90!  Quite nerdy, you might say.  

    I also had my hair cut yesterday.  I usually go to a Turkish barber around the corner, because he hardly speaks any English, so there isn't the usual chit-chat to contend with.  I wasn't happy about the way he cut my hair last time, though.  I asked for a Grade 4 back and sides and short scissor cut on top, but he didn't do the top short enough... and then seemed to be saying that he couldn't cut it any shorter because then he'd have to make the back and sides shorter, too - like he would only cut it according to his way of thinking how it should look!  So this time I found another, cheaper hairdresser in town.  The woman who cut it did a good job.  But I got the usual questions: 'Day off today?  What do you do?  Do you live nearby?'  Agh!  I hate all that.  And being on the spot like that, I feel I have to answer.  To make it worse, though, in the gaps between all the questions and answers, she kept humming a tune.  I think it was probably a nervous thing, to fill the silences, but I found it quite disturbing.  I was glad to get out of there.

    I hate shaving.  I have more crevices on my face now, which makes it more awkward to get to some of the stray stubble.  Also, I've started to find that I have to go over some areas several times to remove everything, yet still find a 'mark' of stubble there - like it's tattooed on, almost.  I wonder if you can get facial electrolysis to prevent facial hair from growing.  I use special 'sensitive' razors because I also have sensitive skin.  Lots of foam or gel, too.

  • in reply to Trainspotter

    A few years ago I spent a lot of time working in 19" racks and could see all the wiring without glasses a couple of inches away from my nose - now I'm reaching for glasses all the time.  I hate this really obvious symptom of aging and deterioration.

  • in reply to Plastic
    Plastic said:
    I've also reached that unfortunate age when my arms are too short - I cannot focus on anything nearer than 3 feet

    I am at the age when the moon and stars aren't far enough away to focus on without my glasses.

    I used to have very good vision until I was forty, but now can't make out anything with clarity without my specs. And I have a pair of poundshop's best for when I can't find my varifocals.

  • I shave every one or two weeks.  I use an electric shaver (i've tried all types) but they always chew my delicate soft skin up when shaving.   I only do it when I become a bit too unkempt.  I have to use steroid creams to repair the damage.

    I hate the way fresh stubble catches on everything, collars, sheets -  it's really annoying.  After a few days, it all goes soft & furry which is more comfortable and nice in the winter.

     As for hair - I get it cut when the lady comes to do my wife's hair - I have no style - just 'shorter' and tidier as directed by the wife.   I have no interest in it.   I used to have it cut all over with a trimmer - #3 or something - but my wife said I looked like a bouncer/thug.

    I've also reached that unfortunate age when my arms are too short - I cannot focus on anything nearer than 3 feet.   I have excellent long vision - I can count the leaves on a tree 100 yards away but I can't see what's on a dinner plate in front of me.

    I've got lots of random pairs of £1.50 Aldi glasses to use for all the 0-3' range from using a computer to close-up model making and bi-focal safety specs for working with hazards.