Am I a snob?

Robert124 said:

people there to be crude, vulgar, common people with no manners.

...I sort of 'ran off' this Thread, but I was still thinking about it. I think that, by Terms such as "Snob" or "Common", it is indeed just a label - BUT - when the person labelled enforces that label of them, then, well, that is what is enforced from the point of view of the person giving the label. (This goes right back into history (predudice, etc.) ... and thus so long a debate that I am not interested in it -!)

I keep thinking of trying this statement, here:

"Common people" may mean as said there, plus I might add, people who are clones, energy-vampires, drones, in the majority (hence thier being "common" and not "uncommon")...

But the defining thing is - **"Commoners" do not seek anything else and are very Happy to STAY that way**...?!

(E.g. - In going with the flow, they are supported, thus are Common. An uncertain thing also flowing, is not Common, but is a Weirdo. Hopefully anyone gets what I mean, here.)

I suspect that I've upset you.

Let me rephrase my opinions, being common or a snob, is not about money but a state of mind.

And in my extreme past I've dealt with both.  Even within my own family.

My father, for example was poor his entire life but also an absolute snob.  He never had any kind of bank account but tried to pay utility bills through a bank because it made him feel important.  The banks either refused or added a handling charge.  We tried to persuade him to use the post office to pay the bills.  But he flicked his wrist in a dismissal action and said, ' Post offices are for those type of people!'.

Dear Robert,,, I don’t think you have “upset” anyone, finding the so called right word to describe certain individuals who just don’t seem to care about anything much is a tricky one.

I think I can fully understand what you mean, I don’t see it as wrong or has upset anyone,

 I shall ramble on as is my way, I am unable to relax as first day back at work tomorrow (now) after a long festive break, anxiety levels high, 

I feel comfy being here, leaning on the garden fence chatting with you and putting the world to rights eh?

long ramble, hold tight it tends to meander.

we each grow up living lives surrounded by our peers, we learn from them. I was growing up during such things as carry on films, comedians who used what are now racial comments, mother in law jokes, women were often called “ birds” , things that were considered ok, everyone accepted how it was, looking at all that now as I have in a tv program titled “ it was alright in the 70’s”. Makes me cringe, unbelievable that such ignorance existed and was considered ok.

Sorry I get lost and wander off on a tangent, my point was that words mean many different things , depending on where and how each of us were brought up, so the word common changes as time passes, as does working class, 

 I am proud to call myself working class, I never had issue with being thought of as common, to me being I was living in a council estate, we had little money, my dad did drink which back then was all about socialising and fitting in, my mum brought up four kids, worked as a cleaner whilst doing that, we were a typical working class family, possibly poorer than the majority,?

My clothes were hand me downs, at times wearing thin, 

I painted that picture because regardless of the circumstances you are in it has no reflection on each individuals ability to actually care, 

society has lost any sense of right or wrong, even if they do know it really is their problem, insular beings, lack of real community, self gratification, everything is easy, everyone should have! Credit is not just ok it is a must, I have no outstanding credit, I have a card, never use it, had to have one to allow certain transactions, 

my car license is paper and yes still perfectly legal, 

The estate I live on now has families that do not want to work, they do however expect and see it as a right to own massive TV sets, drink heavily, fly abroad for a holiday, wear the very latest fashion items, they are living a lie that society has said is the norm. 

Oh dear I do go on, that sadly is a lost ability by most, People used to talk, just talk, the subject wasn’t overly important, but to really talk, to share that experience with a fellow being in equal mindset, not to disagree at every thing said, not to try and prove something, just to interact knowing it was just that, 

Better try and get some sleep I suppose, up at 6:00am, 

Thank you for sharing your times, good and bad, I would love to meet you one day, I think we would be ok,, Your a kind man, very thoughtful, you have standards, high sense of morality, decency, your one of the good ones as my mum would say.

 My mum and yours would have got on very well, not sure my dad and yours would, mine was a socialist, a big union man until the unions sold out the workers, 

Take care Robert and I could be wrong but I like to st least think DC was not upset by your choice of words, 

x()x  

The terms ' snob/common ' are also related to symptoms of autism.  I often am afraid to join groups of people in social situations because of shyness/autism and not knowing what to say or how to behave.  

Later, someone from that group accuses me of being a snob by shunning their group and 'do you think your're better than us?' has been an accusation thrown at me more than once.  When in fact I don't join groups because of the fear of rejection.

The terms ' snob/common ' are also related to symptoms of autism.  I often am afraid to join groups of people in social situations because of shyness/autism and not knowing what to say or how to behave.  

Later, someone from that group accuses me of being a snob by shunning their group and 'do you think your're better than us?' has been an accusation thrown at me more than once.  When in fact I don't join groups because of the fear of rejection.