since i was diagnosed wit autism ive felt kinda depressed

I am immature too - and I am a woman!

jimbo said:

since i was diagnosed a few months ago with autism i've felt kinda depressed because its made me realise why people avoid me and id really like to be able to do things without seeming like an idiot or a child as im nearly 15 yrs old so i would like some advice on how to concentrate and not seem like a idiot or child, i really can't take much more im starting to get really upset.

you are NOT an idiot, or a child, you are a young teenager, who has autism, thats it

i dont have much advice for you about school or other teens, ive been out of that a long time, but i do remember that it can be very hard to feel accepted and if you have anything that makes you 'stand out' its even harder

you just have to push through, ask for help where you can get it (including here) and keep going, there are people who want to make it easier for you and who do understand

I'm kinda going through a similar thing at the moment since my diagnosis of Asperger's, also about 2 months ago. It's almost becoming a kind of hatred towards Neurotypical people. As they are the ones that push me away. Ignore me. All that kinda stuff. It's mostly because of my manager though. It's not everyone. And we all have to realize this. Not only are we different to "them". But many of "them" are different to each other, aswell.

Just as they group together and outcast us. We can do the same (wow.. I really do sound bitter at the moment. I'm going to be seeing my doctor soon. Depression getting really bad again due to stress at work.)

We are awesome. We all are. We just need to find each other and see just how awesome we can be together without being made to feel inferior due to our lesser social skills.

You will learn to accept yourself for who you are. Just try not to get bitter at "them" like I am. It will only make it harder.

You will be ok :)

Hi Jimbo,

Assuming you are a boy, I'll let you into a little secret - we boys never really grow up!

I'm nearly 40, but I still think like a 14 year old at times.

And all those other lads you know, all appearing to act all grown up - well, it's exactly that - they're appearing to be, and acting all grown up - they're all just as silly and childish as you and I really - they just try to hide it.

And you know what, in a few years time, they'll drop the act and be all stupid and childish again. And, then, again, sometime in their 20s they'll all start acting all grown up again. But again, it will still be an act. And then eventually, they'll accept that they too aren't as all grown up as they like to pretend they are.

Embrace who you are, and realise that there's nothing wrong with being silly and childish, you will 'mature' in time, but you will never lose that childish side of you, let it happen, you have 70 or more years of life ahead of you in which to be 'grown up'.

Hi Jimbo,

first of all welcome to the community :-)

second, you are different, NOT defective! ok?

third, try not to dwell on the things you did as a child.  You were a child, you're allowed to do stupid and childish things then.  Now you are growing into a young man (I'm assuming you're a boy 'cause of the name Jimbo)

It sounds like you might be depressed. If you think you may be depressed I really would urge you discuss this with a professional, either at school or your doctor.  That's what they are there for and they will be happy to help.  

Autistic people grow and mature (*ahem* some of us not very much lol) as do NT people.  We can learn better ways to socialise and have friends. Many many people on the spectrum get married and have children.  We can have jobs and cars and happy lives and fun and friends. 

You have lots of talents that only you have and it sounds like you need a little help from your support network, mentor or whatever is available to help you become more comfortable in your skin.

Take care!!!
Tara :-)