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Time out

Martian Tom
over 5 years ago

Dear folks,

I have requested that my account be deleted, and this was confirmed to me - but it appears to be still active for the time being.

I just wanted to explain to you all - as I should have done before - that I need to take time out from the community.  Autism defines my life, of course, but I was beginning to feel that I was letting it take over my life.  I have autism, I work with autistic people, I talk about autism all the time, I write about autism all the time.  I think I've allowed my life to get out of balance with it, and I feel the need to restore some of that balance.

I have recently rejoined a writers' website that I used to use many years ago.  I did this as a way of trying to encourage myself to get back to doing some writing - something that's been missing from my life for a while (aside from the autism-related blog!)  Even on there, though, my first few posts were about Asperger's.  This was actually useful, because a lot of people seemed interested - but either knew very little about the subject, or had some of the usual misconceptions.  So, I've been able to offer some insights and elucidation.  But I want to focus more on other things, and need to give this a rest - as we all do from time to time.

I wish you all well and thank you all for your support.  It has meant a lot to me, and has kept me going.  I'm very grateful to you all.

I'll re-register once I feel more able to contribute usefully to the forums.

Best wishes,

Tom x

  • over 5 years ago

    ...Ah, so *this* Thread is the one which is receiving last messages transmitted from Martian Tom, before He and Miss Daisy re-board the Inter-Forum Spaceship, to leave for the Zone known as "Time out"...?
    I had already sent "Best Wishes" to another SpacePort here, and looked around one near to it, but the "Deleted User"-Zone is a restricted Area. In any case, this is my waving my Handkerchief in "Au Revoir" also... *sniffle!*

    (To confess, I might quit someday, though I would do as many others did, and leave my account intact. Lately I just take short breaks, also as many others do. Yet as always, my old devices, might "quit" me at anytime...(!))

    Last Advice: When adjusting your Cat to a new Forum, be sure to do so gradually, and make sure that Fresh Drinking Water is always available.

    As always, A Grand Good Fortune To You, Good Sir, and to Madame Daisy, in whatever you both do.   :-)

  • over 5 years ago

    Glad to hear that you're OK, Tom, and also glad to hear that your sabbatical is the result of of a positive choice to rebalance your life and improve your well-being.

    Going too far down the rabbit hole can be very easy to do, and it can sneak up on us very stealthily. Even discussions which help us by improving our self-awareness and understanding of autism can take their toll mentally, and talking about traumatic experiences even more so, even those that we found peace with long ago. It can be demoralising too, sometimes, to see so many other people having difficulties and receiving so little sympathy from society all the time. It is good that we talk about those things, but still something which can lower our mood and become oppressive if overdone.

    I take breaks from the forums pretty regularly, sometimes for a few days, sometimes for months, and have done ever since I started using them. It's just necessary sometimes, and I'm not helping anyone by sitting staring at a thread unable to put a simple sentence together because I'm too burned out.

    I look forward to hearing from you again when you're ready to return. Enjoy your writing.

  • over 5 years ago

    All the best Tom, hope to see you back, but only when it is right for you.

  • over 5 years ago

    Good luck Martian Tom!  I’ve only just come back myself after being away for a bit and I feel better for the break.

  • over 5 years ago

    All the best Martian Tom. Your comments on here and your attitude have been very helpful to me.

    I hope you will drop in and say hello from time to time.  Slight smile

    Ytt.   

  • over 5 years ago in reply to Martian Tom

    Glad to see it's au revoir rather than goodbye ;-)

  • over 5 years ago

    Enjoy the writing. It’s good to get into other things. I’ve enjoyed your posts. Bye for now. 

  • over 5 years ago in reply to Robert124

    So am I, Robert.  I asked for my account to be deleted.  I was assured this was done.  This morning I checked, and could still log in.  That's when I noticed that I was logged in as 'Martian Tom' - even though my other posts come up as 'Deleted User'.  I actually even changed my name to 'Deleted User' at the same time of asking.  So I don't know the answer.  I'm still using the same email address and password.  Maybe my 'name change' only affected my earlier posts and the account deletion hasn't come into effect yet.

  • over 5 years ago

    I'm confused.

    In the thread, goodnight and good luck.

    You appear as a deleted user.

    Here, your name still comes up?

  • over 5 years ago

    Thank you both.

    Here's my latest posting, in case it's of interest...

    How writing (and a cat called Daisy) may have saved my life...

    Au revoir!

  • over 5 years ago

    Glad you're OK Tom and bon courage for throwing yourself into the writing!