Wife unwilling to accept that our son has autism.

My wife is unwilling to accept that our four year old is autistic. I am British and she is Chinese and we live in China. My son hears both English and Mandarin on a daily basis and she attributes this to his speech difficulties. 

My son spins his keys often and forces air into his ears, to stimulate or block out loud noises. 

I worry without help, this may hinder his development for good.

I don't know what to do as I feel he'd be better off in the UK with guidance or treatment, however, our life isn't as easy as that and there are other variables making it difficult!