Published on 12, July, 2020
As someone autistic, I know how vulnerable I can be at times.
I have to think hard to understand that things may not be as they seem.
There have been posts here recently about 'friendship' and dating. From a general point of view there are several things to look out for where others could take advantage of autistic traits. And one of them is someone who says they are neurotypical but are looking for someone autistic.
This begs the question 'Why?' I think we would all be very suspicious of a middle aged man who said he wanted to meet girls of thirteen or fourteen. It woujld immediately send alarm bells ringing. And by the same token we should be very wary if someone says they are neurotypical and then wishes to make friends with and date autistic people. My thoughts of this that spring to mind are that it may be someone who wishes to take advantage of autistic naiivity, someone who wants to lead us gradually to places we are not comfortable. Add to the mix the first thing they say is that they want to see pictures of us and we are getting into very dangerous territory if we are not careful.
Our details could be shared with any number of strangers, the word could get out of our vulnerabilities which have been coaxed out of us and this used by any number of people to exploit us. And just because someone says they live in Birmingham or Manchester or wherever, does not mean it is true. It could be to lead us into a false sense of security,
And then there are the 'hard-luck' stories. Who can forget the 'Nigerian' emails of a few years ago where untold riches were promised in return for a sum of money to release funds. And then the emails purporting to be from a bank. Such things are getting more and more sophisticated. We could give our details to any number of people who want to exploit us through befriending just one person.
Several years ago an email which purported to be from a loved one, saying they were trapped in a foreign country and needed money immediately to get home. The address was got from harvesting addresses from a friends computer. And I have suspicions that befriending some of these people might also lead to such hard luck stories or similar.
It is very difficult to tell who is genuine and who is not but we should all be very careful. I know it is difficult to say that all posts asking for dating should be removed. But I believe this should be done in order to protect us. This forum should not be a dating site. And none of us should reveal personal details to anyone until we are absolutely certain that someone is bona fide. To do otherwise could have tragic consequences.
The following song is quite relevant:
Add me by Chumbawamba
My son to is in prison now. The teen told my son "You won't go to Prison because of me" while she made up allegations against him behind his back. She called up at the window to get him out. She txt him thousands of times. She asked for items money as her 20 year old brother. Got her friends to call over. We didn't know about the allegations for almost 2 years. The police built the case up. Until he was sentenced to prison the barrester then gave him the allegations statement to read in prison! No defence made. We only saw the police statements, which said very little!!! The system is nasty. The solicitors did not inform my son on all allegations. The police took too long to deal with them and told it's a separate issue!!!!! Not mentioned in court dispute us informing.
We are living in tough times. He won't cope on a 10 year order! It's too much!
Judge knew the order on needing to be more clear. We didn't see the actual order he was on prior
It's terrible this is happening.
My son don't want to know anyone no more.
In the meantime he is in prison locked in a temp room alone and has nothing. He's been in a tracksuit for two weeks not washed let out 30 mins a day. On temp wing. So he can't get education, nothing.
The solicitor and barrester told me they had to prove he had capacity otherwise the court would not know what to do with him. So you're dammed either way!
Teens target vulnerable adults.
We've had it for years.
No protection and grey area.
He looks young himself and feels it.
He don't feel like an adult due to his physical disabilities and illnesses on top. No professional support.
Just about to get him a Navigator but the case stopped it all. Yet my other son the same is thriving as he don't have physical disabilities
Inciting - Entrapment are a common occurrence in my town. Teens do this now especially known convicted vulnerable adults.