I was bored and not happy here
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Hi Song, I think what you write is worth reading.
As a new user a few months ago I wrote much less (than I do now) and I felt less confident about chatting here. Gradually I have gained in confidence a little about writing here (although not so much when it comes to starting new Threads) and I reply to more threads than I used to. I think it just takes time to get used to the forum (I've never used a chat place like this before and I don't use any social media so this was / is a huge learning curve!).
Although I may post more now, I don't think I've got better at chatting to people at all really. More confident in trying it, yes, but I often worry after I've posted something. Will I come across 'wrong'? Will I upset people? Am I annoying everyone? Am I getting the wrong end of the stick entirely when I respond to something? Do I sound like an idiot (again)? All of these sorts of doubts. I guess I'm sort of assuming (maybe hoping?) that everyone else thinks like this or feels these things too sometimes.
I think private messages are a little more daunting too in some ways. There's so much I WANT to say but sometimes I'm just worried about how TO say it or how the other person perceives it. I'm not sure why I seize up when it comes to this (it's frustrating!!!!!) but I'm trying to work on it.
The reason for this long 'All about me' is just that I want you to know that you're not the only one who feels like this. Some days I put on my 'Confident Me' but other days I think it gets lost in the wash : /
Thank You for replying California! I'm glad that everything's okay : )
I don't know much about chat bots either and that's why I was worried but after speaking to other people who know more about these things than me, it turns out I was worried about nothing! The online world is all rather new to me and I think I just over-reacted, Sorry!
Hi Rachael, I would love to be your online friend.
Could you please tell us a bit more about yourself, your hobbies, interests, a bit about your childhood likes, dislikes, how you found out about this site, are you Autistic? ( Diagnosed or self diagnosed?). Interesting stories about your experiences.
Is English your first language? ( I started learning English when I was five) If not how did you learn it? ( I slowly picked it up from other kids at school).
Hope to hear from you soon.
It is more difficult to write in here sometimes though, I delete more posts than I post. I don't think most of what I wrote is worth reading.
I keep on thinking I am getting better but it's just not true.
Hello California. I am not good at writing chatty things, but if you want to write please do. I get stuck if I don't know what to say back. But I will try harder
Thank you for the post!
I am also not good at writing chatty things.
I also get stuck if I do not know what to say back.
I am fine. I am trying harder to read the posts and write something in the public forum.
Hello California. I am not good at writing chatty things, but if you want to write please do. I get stuck if I don't know what to say back. But I will try harder
Me? I am here. Why are you asking?
Thank you very much for the valuable advice.
I am sure that Rachael is a lovely person and I mean no disrespect to her or you but it is a very good idea to chat to each other a little first before Private Messaging, just to see if you have something in common perhaps or find out a little more about each other first.
I completely agree with you. It is a very good idea to chat to each other a little first before Private Messaging to see if we have something in common. I like to know someone better before sending private messages.
I do not know much about Rachael. I have not sent any private messages. She was looking for a friend, I replied in that thread and said that I am also looking for a friend. She have not replied.
Then later a received a friend request from Rachael.
I have not accepted the friend request as she can send me a private message without being friend if she wants. I have not received anything from her.
For all anyone knows, a sudden new user might be a chat bot and not even a real person at all. There have been some strange posts started recently so it's always best to be careful and get to know each other even a tiny bit first.
I, definitely, agree that it is necessary to be careful and get to know each other even a tiny bit first but I am not that suspicious if someone is a new user.
I do not know much about chat bots. I even did not know that they exist. This is something new to me.
Yes, I read it. Thank you very much!
I started communication with Song and NAS37035 but we do not communicate anymore.
I would not say that we are friends. At least not yet, if we are ever going to communicate again.
Also, one of them I invited to be friends to write a private message. I could not send a private message without being friends. The other one simply invited me to be friends. We do not communicate really.
None of them I consider to be a friend really.
I am not good at maintaining friendships. I am also shy.
If someone does not write to me anymore or the communication simply stopped, I do not want to be the first to write again.
Hi @California,
Disambiguating Cynosure is right, Please be careful!
I am sure that Rachael is a lovely person and I mean no disrespect to her or you but it is a very good idea to chat to each other a little first before Private Messaging, just to see if you have something in common perhaps or find out a little more about each other first.
For all anyone knows, a sudden new user might be a chat bot and not even a real person at all. There have been some strange posts started recently so it's always best to be careful and get to know each other even a tiny bit first.
Are you there?
Good Day to California...
I find this, and am wondering if you read what was Posted in Reply to yourself, upon the "EMail Friends" Thread? It is a better idea to begin and to maintain any "Friendships" which you *already* have had offered at yourself, rather than just Posting so much regardless of that. As I saw it, you already have Two "Friends" at least...? (NAS37035 and Song...?)
(Sorry if this Post seems rude or curt, it is not meant to be.)
Me! I am looking for a friend.
...Or is that as in a "Friend" in real life, rather than via NAS Internet "Friending" here? Can someone else please check and reply to this?
