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What now after late diagnosis of ADHD, ASD and isolation…?

Sophes

I’d suspected my diagnosis for many years before i had it confirmed with assessments. (ADHD predominantly inattentive and ASD) I’ve been relating with some of the stuff i’ve read and seen on social media and understanding myself more over the last couple of months since diagnosis but am seriously struggling with loneliness (my marriage ended and i moved areas all within the last year too.) Very overwhelming.

i think looking back that the mask really began to slip when i had a hysterectomy aged 40, hormones etc? Combine that with a load of other stuff i won’t get in to … 

i do enjoy my own company and am resistant to when people suggest i socialise more, (even though i think this would be good for me!!) but i really would like a supportive, non judgmental and understanding network of some sort.

Does anyone else struggle with these things too? i really do want to move forward somehow and embrace this very new perspective of myself and learn and relate to others.

Any suggestions welcome (hopefully)!

  • in reply to profdanger

    Good evening!

    thank you so much for your kind message.

    i’ve been given some other news today and feel like I’ve regressed about 5 steps back emotionally as a result.

    i wasn’t prepared, and i think that side of things, communication styles - and consequently RSD etc is greatly either underestimated or just not understood at all by your average neurotypical person… 

  • Good afternoon from America, Sophes!

    Wow, sounds like you have dealt with a great deal of change within the last year. Change can be very hard for those with ASD to manage, especially such massive life changes as you’ve gone through. Remember to be kind to yourself, especially now that you have a clearer picture as to how ASD/ADHD has impacted your life.

  • Hey Sophes, welcome!

    A lot of us here have come across our diagnosis late after struggling for a long time. I do find it easier to talk with people here, I'm rather awkward and rubbish at it in real life. I find it easier to discuss issues here and relate to other people's experiences. I hope you can too.