Feeling discombobulated

Talking to people (other than my closest family) always leaves me feeling unsettled. And as you say - often I can’t pinpoint exactly what I might have done wrong (if anything) etc. I’m working on  learning to ‘let go’ of worrying thoughts like this. Dwelling on it doesn’t help me, or anyone else - so I just mental,y tell myself to STOP ruminating on it, and try not to care what other people think of me. Easier said than done of course. But it’s a work in progress. 

I know how you feel. I always worry about what kind of impression I might leave on new people

I know how you feel. I always worry about what kind of impression I might leave on new people

Hi Kate

My wife suffers from Rejection Sensitivity. It goes back to her childhood with a mother who wasn’t nurturing or kind, was usually critical and rarely gave her validation. She sought psychiatric help for a variety of emotional issues and this seemed to be part of EUPD, though she had, fortunately, insufficient of the other diagnostic features to get this diagnosis. 

She was very open with me about her mental health struggles right from out first date and even though she still occasionally experiences this it is very very much less due to stability and in depth communication we have as a couple. We are both in our 60s btw. 

Wishing you well

Alice

Yes. My husband has reassured me so many times after I’ve been speaking to someone that it all went ok - but somehow no matter what he says I never really believe it. Recently I learned about Rejection sensitive dysphoria- and I really identified with that. I think deep down I always have an underlying believe that everyone kind of hates me. Rationally I know that can’t REALLY be the case - but that belief still sticks with me like glue. 

Me too and with people I already know.