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Bananatropics26

I think it's cos I'm spending another Christmas alone. But hey I like to smoke but I don't drink. Most people my age are too used to cutting corners and trying to undercut you. I have limited patience now it seems than I did when I was younger. If someone gets on my nerves I just sigh and avoid them. Time alone is great for me I am having the time of my life here. I want to stop smoking. I replace them with cigarettes. Naybe

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  • in reply to Iain

    Oh yeh definitely. Therapy is good. So is art. Smoking I sort of fall back on because I tried it first at 14. Always saw it as a quick way to feel better.

  • in reply to Bananatropics26

    It either numbs you or lowers your inhibitions so you can cope better in social situations with others in a similar state. It is just a sticking plaster for the real underlying issues.

    I find meditating can be both relaxing and can lead to surprising clarity when reviewing things that are on my mind. I learned from a mix of books and YouTube - the basics are fairly simple but it is the self discipline that is the kicker to get right.

    Once you are over that barrier it gets a lot easier I found.

    I've been decreasing the stimulants (alcohol, sugar and caffaine) for months now and it is great for having a clear mind. It helps with sleep and some stomach issues I have as well so it is paying off.

    Getting lots of exercise is another great way to give the mind time to process stuff - most things where the hands are busy and the mind is free to whirr away on something else will do the trick.

    If you get the chance to have a therapist helping you process the issues and then you use your free time to thing stuff through, it can be transformative.

  • in reply to Iain

    Yeh I really need to stop. At least it got me off alcohol. But you end up just using it to numb anyway. My friend who also smokes thinks after a while it just numbs you.

  • in reply to Bananatropics26

    A shame the UK law prohibits growing your own.

    I've never been a fan of smoking it myself - I find the smell sickening and it sticks to your skin, hair and clothes so you smell of it for a long time after.

    Using it for cooking has more potential though.

    It was pretty cheap when I was living in the UK - but I guess it depends on how much you get through. My neighbour used to smoke it about 10 times a day and he was long term unemployed so I often wondered how he managed to afford it.