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maybe one explanation for autistic people being gaslighted by neurotypicals

Phased

"Gaslighting is the manipulation by psychological means of a person (or group) which causes them to doubt themselves, their capabilities or their sense of reality. "

I recently came across this article Cognitive Dissonance and Autism | The Neurodivergent Brain

I came out of it understanding that according to the article...

Memories of events stay the same however interpretation of why things happened as they did can change, this is a more "autistic way" of how to settle mental confusion. 

Neurotypical people on the other hand are more likely to change their memories of things to settle the confusion.

So when a neurotypical person gives a version of events that completely is at odds with what autistic people recall happening which consequently "gaslights" the autistic person this might explain it.

I have to say that for myself this has a sense of authenticity about it.

Or am I just deluding myself as much as the article accuses neurotypical people of doing to themselves?

Thought anyone please?

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  • I find myself being able to hold a memory and visualise it from different facets, this helps me learn from unhelpful situations as I have diferent perspectives on it. I think NT often come up with an idea of how will happen and remember that, rather than what actually did happen and they seem to do it collectively too.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Yes, facets like a diamond has.  

    Likewise it is possible to consider that one views the world from inside a diamond through different facets.

    Remembering in the neurotypical fashion that you describe is like looking from within the diamond, making one's own light which gets trapped in the diamond and then only seeing the reflections.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Yes, facets like a diamond has.  

    Likewise it is possible to consider that one views the world from inside a diamond through different facets.

    Remembering in the neurotypical fashion that you describe is like looking from within the diamond, making one's own light which gets trapped in the diamond and then only seeing the reflections.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    yes their reality is significantly shifted from that of autistic people even when we take into account that "everyone is different" because of their different brain structure...

    maybe they remember things differently because their experience of reality is different

    Maybe because the way they handle memories is different too - including because they remember different things.

  • in reply to Phased

    I wonder if NT's have a consensus reality thats totally different from how reality is percieved by ND's? I've been in a few situations were I've remembered things totally differently to a group of NT's and I know they know they've made it up because they try and explain why my memories are faulty rather than just not remembering or having partial memories.