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maybe one explanation for autistic people being gaslighted by neurotypicals

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"Gaslighting is the manipulation by psychological means of a person (or group) which causes them to doubt themselves, their capabilities or their sense of reality. "

I recently came across this article Cognitive Dissonance and Autism | The Neurodivergent Brain

I came out of it understanding that according to the article...

Memories of events stay the same however interpretation of why things happened as they did can change, this is a more "autistic way" of how to settle mental confusion. 

Neurotypical people on the other hand are more likely to change their memories of things to settle the confusion.

So when a neurotypical person gives a version of events that completely is at odds with what autistic people recall happening which consequently "gaslights" the autistic person this might explain it.

I have to say that for myself this has a sense of authenticity about it.

Or am I just deluding myself as much as the article accuses neurotypical people of doing to themselves?

Thought anyone please?

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  • I find myself being able to hold a memory and visualise it from different facets, this helps me learn from unhelpful situations as I have diferent perspectives on it. I think NT often come up with an idea of how will happen and remember that, rather than what actually did happen and they seem to do it collectively too.

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  • I find myself being able to hold a memory and visualise it from different facets, this helps me learn from unhelpful situations as I have diferent perspectives on it. I think NT often come up with an idea of how will happen and remember that, rather than what actually did happen and they seem to do it collectively too.

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Yes, facets like a diamond has.  

    Likewise it is possible to consider that one views the world from inside a diamond through different facets.

    Remembering in the neurotypical fashion that you describe is like looking from within the diamond, making one's own light which gets trapped in the diamond and then only seeing the reflections.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I can sometimes remember extra sensory details too (that aren't always relevent), like the sounds of the playground or the feel of a tree trunk or a certain smell. I'm curious now whether that's a trait of our memory recollcation, or something that everyone has.
    I can imagine being able to exam all the details and then work it out, rather than just remembering a feeling helps to rebuild ideas behind memories, if that's what you mean? (I could have got that wrong, in case do say!)