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Feeling overwhelmed when reaching out, does anyone else experience this?

Lonehare12

I wanted to ask about something I noticed recently about myself.

When I tried to PM someone to thank them for their efforts supporting people here, I felt a really awful, physical feeling in my body, almost dread. I think it might be related to RSD or sensitivity around showing vulnerability.

It felt like because of all the unknowns around it, the uncertainty of it all, I nearly talked myself out of it.

Is this because of my AUDHD or are NT people like this too.

I wonder if others experience something similar?

How do you manage it, and does it help to try small steps, like sending a message or accepting compliments?

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  • Another part for me in contacting people is, will I be able to rid of them or will they cling to me like a limpet and be a drain on me? 

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I try to think of it more like a dance.

    It helps although yep, some people are a bit of a drag and physically and mentally.

    Being able to disengage is a really critical skill that I wish I was better at - certainly from a work related basis.  A lot easier outside of work to do it though still troublesome as everyone has their problems it seems.

    I'm not religious however I believe I read once that saints go to purgatory too!

    At which point the words of the song "he ain't heavy..." spring to mind.  Hehe maudling, guilt provoking, but maybe human sentiments? 

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  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I try to think of it more like a dance.

    It helps although yep, some people are a bit of a drag and physically and mentally.

    Being able to disengage is a really critical skill that I wish I was better at - certainly from a work related basis.  A lot easier outside of work to do it though still troublesome as everyone has their problems it seems.

    I'm not religious however I believe I read once that saints go to purgatory too!

    At which point the words of the song "he ain't heavy..." spring to mind.  Hehe maudling, guilt provoking, but maybe human sentiments? 

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