Mental health

Hang in there. I’ve been there. Being alone and misunderstood isn’t easy. I’m still trying to get my meds sorted properly. Please speak with your GP or a medical professional straight away. How can I help you? Rob

Ive tried to talk to my GP it gets me no where no one truly sits an listens to me, which is fine I get it at this point Im just a pain.. even the professional dont care they just pushed me aside to sometimes there's just no help I suppose.

This is the unfortunate reality of our situation. I believe professionals think they know autism better than anyone, when there really isn't enough research for them to be an absolute authority on how to help us. If there is research, they clearly aren't using it. Not every professional is like this, but it does take some time wading through the muck to find your people. You need someone who listens to you, clearly, and hears you, and understands you are a human being who needs help. You need professional help with your mental state, I can see clearly from your words. The fact you aren't getting it is a failure of the institutions that are supposed to help you, not a failure on your part.

I believe we know what we need better than anyone, if we sit and dig into our minds for a while, and find the core of what is causing our issues in the first place. Depression doesn't just fall out of the sky (I think), it has a cause, and dealing with that cause will reduce the depression, and make it easier to cope with.

For me, researching my mental state, and topics related to it, helped me put words to my feelings and experiences. You need to figure out how your brain works, and why it works that way. I hope you will be able to find for yourself a way to express yourself that satisfies your mind, and allows you some calm. Understand that human beings are not born depressed, we are made depressed by experiences with the world around us. As a result, we can become un-depressed with the right course of action. It will take a long time, Rome wasnt built in a day, but it is entirely possible. I understand how hard it is to work against executive dysfunction and deep depression, though. My words do not cover even one percent of how hard it is to deal with these issues.

It blows my mind how poor the NHS is, regarding autistic people, but it makes sense, given how isolated we are.

What are your interests? Are you too depressed for interests?

I hope this is helpful, and not vague or abstract.

This is the unfortunate reality of our situation. I believe professionals think they know autism better than anyone, when there really isn't enough research for them to be an absolute authority on how to help us. If there is research, they clearly aren't using it. Not every professional is like this, but it does take some time wading through the muck to find your people. You need someone who listens to you, clearly, and hears you, and understands you are a human being who needs help. You need professional help with your mental state, I can see clearly from your words. The fact you aren't getting it is a failure of the institutions that are supposed to help you, not a failure on your part.

I believe we know what we need better than anyone, if we sit and dig into our minds for a while, and find the core of what is causing our issues in the first place. Depression doesn't just fall out of the sky (I think), it has a cause, and dealing with that cause will reduce the depression, and make it easier to cope with.

For me, researching my mental state, and topics related to it, helped me put words to my feelings and experiences. You need to figure out how your brain works, and why it works that way. I hope you will be able to find for yourself a way to express yourself that satisfies your mind, and allows you some calm. Understand that human beings are not born depressed, we are made depressed by experiences with the world around us. As a result, we can become un-depressed with the right course of action. It will take a long time, Rome wasnt built in a day, but it is entirely possible. I understand how hard it is to work against executive dysfunction and deep depression, though. My words do not cover even one percent of how hard it is to deal with these issues.

It blows my mind how poor the NHS is, regarding autistic people, but it makes sense, given how isolated we are.

What are your interests? Are you too depressed for interests?

I hope this is helpful, and not vague or abstract.

Thanks for the information. I'll check my settings.

I've sent you a friend request on here. That could be why there's no option, because we aren't friends. I'll look at my options, to make sure you can send me a message.

I've changed my settings, so anyone can message me.

You can set your setting to allow either anyone/just friends/no-one to be allowed to send you a message - to send someone a message or request to be their friend put your mouse over their name and select what you want to do from the options - maybe slightly different on a phone.

Its ok no need to apologise its all good.. just looked dont think theres a messaging box on here unless im just not looking right.. 

Either way just let me know.

No problem at all. You're 10 years older than me. It's going to be easy to remember that.

Sorry for jumping to assumptions about why you were asking.

Don't apologise, it wasn't your fault. I had an alarm set for a reason, and I chose to ignore it, like a buffoon.

I'll see if there's a messaging function on here. If not, I don't know what to do. I guess I'll drop a link to one of my social media accounts, if that's not against the rules of the site.

Yeh 87 is my birth year is that a problem?

Dont worry im not about to coax ya into gaming was just curious thats all.

Sorry to keep ya from ya appointment hope all goes well :) I dont stay up late myself no more myself normally in bed by 10 if not earlier can't do late no more always so tired an worn out. Honestly u can just reply when u can im not guna hold ya to reply to me thats ok.             Whenever u have spare time thats good an if ur up for that

Random question, but is 87 your birth year?

Sorry for the length of this reply, by the way. It might be somewhat overwhelming. Just reply to what feels most important to you.

Thank you for your kind words. That doctor managed to push me into a meltdown the next time I saw them. This, sadly, is the state of the NHS for autistic people.

I'm a PC gamer, but I play no games online, due to extreme social anxiety, rooted in a not good past. I would be willing to invest in an online game for us to play. That's if you have a PC that's powerful enough for some of the games out there today, but they can be expensive. If not, we can just talk about anything.

I'm not one to stay up late, most days, but I am willing to work with you on figuring out a time we can interact. Shouldn't be too hard, as I have nothing but an appointment for today. We can discuss anything. I talk to my two friends, both internet friends, about everything, including mental health. Plus, I feel having an autistic friend who can relate to what we say will be good for both of us. Don't worry about feeling like you're saying too much. I've replied to much longer messages than what you're putting out right now, and I've had my friends confide in me about a lot, as well as I have confided in them with a lot.

Don't worry about how you can help me. Just worry about yourself, for now. We can worry about me if  I enter a low state, which is rare these days.

I'm currently rather busy with stuff going on in my life, but I'll try see if there's a way I can message you on here later on. Maybe later today, or even tomorrow. I won't have the time to get back to you right now. I spent so much time on this reply that I might be late for a dental appointment. (My own fault. I had an alarm set for it, which I ignored.)

Sorry to hear you went through those experiences urself thats damn right disrespectful there meant to be there to help an listen but they dont which is awful, but yeh I'd love to have someone to talk to without feeling im saying to much or feeling bad for saying certain things.

Do you game on on another platform?

But yeh I'd be the kind to stay up extremely late an laugh an joke but I can't remember the last time I even enjoyed being in someone's company I just feel out of place all the time now its so hard.

But yeh if ud be happy to listen I wouldn't mind having someone to talk to an same to you I may not be much help but I can relate in most ways I suppose an listen to you to.

Not being able to reply, whether you freeze, or you mask, it's so disappointing in yourself, but understand this is your mind trying to protect you from what's probably been some tough experiences for you to process.

I've had a psychiatrist laugh at me when I told them I was autistic, and ask "Is that something you read online?", among other things. Institutional abandonment is a real issue. Not being taken seriously, especially during an intense low, like you're experiencing right now is not only disrespectful, it's incredibly harmful. This is you sharing your vulnerabilities, your experiences, your pain, and none of it is being treated as if it's real or serious.

Do you think having someone to talk to on here would help? Someone to share your pain with? I have literally nothing going on, due to my own mental state, and would be more than happy to talk to you about all of this, or anything, really, if you're up for that. Whether it's simply wanting someone to talk to, or needing someone to support you, I am willing, and I am sure many people on here would be willing.

Also, I love gaming, though I don't have an Xbox. My friend has recently gotten into colouring. We both remember a time when we were in your position, no joy from our hobbies, and a deep depression. It's incredibly hard to deal with.

Sadly ur right there ive been digging an looking trying to find a way out its just so hard im just so afraid you know that its guna get to the point of no return   it just seems the more i try an tell people my true feelings its hard to get out or they just dont take me seriously I dont know who I am no more thats for sure an its effecting me gravely 

I love to game on xbox an colour but it's just so hard to keep focused an enjoy any of it