Overwhelmed and behaving aggressive

Are you angry and aggressive or is this the perception of others? Are you being expected to smile and be "nice" all the time?

I think the first thing to get you're head around, is that there's no such thing as the perfect parent, I'm sure rationally you know that, but do you feel it, are you allowed to feel it? Being a good enough parent is all that can be asked of anybody.

A young family is stressull, incredibly so, I used to long to be able to go to the toilet in peace and know that the "quiet" wasn't them doing something naughty whilst I was otherwise occupied. What was worse, was that my partner seemed to think being at home with 2 underfives was easy.

Is it possible you're suffering from post natal depression? It often dosen't set in for some months after the baby's been born, people think it does but not always, this could be worth checking out, the right support could make all the difference and stop you banging your head against the wall. Post natal depression isn't failure, nobodies going to take your children away or kick you out of your house, it's a chemical imbalance and medication can help rectify it.

I'm not angry, it's other's perception of me. I also often get perceived as moody, when I'm absolutely not. Sometimes I hear from my husband that I'm argumentative,  when it's not my intention to argue with him. I just state, some other solution is better for particular situation.

I'm overwhelmed by too much going on. I used to have similar stress before pregnancy too. Now it's harder because it's with the child - 24/7 job. I was diagnosed and medicated for depression and its always same, so I don't get any hope. I used to have post natal depression but I got meds around 3 years ago and it got better. 

Hi AlienOn3arth.

I'm older than you.

I've struggled with the vast majority of people in my life - but always pulled through successfully, in the end, with the important ones.  Fwiw, it has taken me about 15 years to convince some people that I'm not angry when they think I am, and not moody when they think I am = even the people that I would expect to know better!!!

I have endured a VERY mixed bag of horrors, hopelessness, overwhelming frustration and near-madness.

I have also enjoyed a VERY mixed bag of pure magic, connection, delight and near-bliss.

One thing that I have learnt, beyond question.......is that THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE.....for the simple fact that things ALWAYS CHANGE - good to bad, and bad to good and all shades in between!

This had lead me to be mindful of two things that I always try to remember;

1.  When I find myself happy and settled = I pay attention, thank my lucky stars, and enjoy the feeling.

2.  When I find myself feeling hopeless and deeply unhappy = I remind myself that things ALWAYS change, and therefore, there is ALWAYS hope.

Fwiw, it sounds to me like YOU don't actually have a problem (you've always seemed pretty flipping excellent to me!), but that it is the ENVIRONMENTAL REALITIES that are the flipping problem!!  I know that doesn't particularly help you in a practical sense at this moment (especially with a young human to care for + job + navigating all the "normal" stuff of life,) but I hope these words will find some use to reassure you that I think you're AOK......and even if you're not.......it's probably not YOU but STUFF that is the problem......and MOST IMPORTANTLY......that things ALWAYS change.......and therefore there is ALWAYS hope.

I miss you and wish you only good things, always.

Warmly yours,

Number.

Hi AlienOn3arth.

I'm older than you.

I've struggled with the vast majority of people in my life - but always pulled through successfully, in the end, with the important ones.  Fwiw, it has taken me about 15 years to convince some people that I'm not angry when they think I am, and not moody when they think I am = even the people that I would expect to know better!!!

I have endured a VERY mixed bag of horrors, hopelessness, overwhelming frustration and near-madness.

I have also enjoyed a VERY mixed bag of pure magic, connection, delight and near-bliss.

One thing that I have learnt, beyond question.......is that THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE.....for the simple fact that things ALWAYS CHANGE - good to bad, and bad to good and all shades in between!

This had lead me to be mindful of two things that I always try to remember;

1.  When I find myself happy and settled = I pay attention, thank my lucky stars, and enjoy the feeling.

2.  When I find myself feeling hopeless and deeply unhappy = I remind myself that things ALWAYS change, and therefore, there is ALWAYS hope.

Fwiw, it sounds to me like YOU don't actually have a problem (you've always seemed pretty flipping excellent to me!), but that it is the ENVIRONMENTAL REALITIES that are the flipping problem!!  I know that doesn't particularly help you in a practical sense at this moment (especially with a young human to care for + job + navigating all the "normal" stuff of life,) but I hope these words will find some use to reassure you that I think you're AOK......and even if you're not.......it's probably not YOU but STUFF that is the problem......and MOST IMPORTANTLY......that things ALWAYS change.......and therefore there is ALWAYS hope.

I miss you and wish you only good things, always.

Warmly yours,

Number.

Thank you for your warm words. Yes, it is environmental problem, but it occurs because of me not being fit to the environment.  So it affects me and those around me. I know that everything will change, but the pain of now is overwhelming.